Suicide Is Forever

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September was first declared as National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month in 2008. Since then, September has been a time to acknowledge those affected by suicide, raise awareness, and connect individuals to treatment services.

We had a son that committed Suicide a few years ago. We had no idea he was even thinking that. He acted completely normal the day before.  He got up in the night and hung himself in his basement. He did not leave a “WHY” he just left. The “State of Mind” he was in  he did not understand that “Suicide is Forever!”

According to the CDC, each year more than 41,000 individuals die by suicide, leaving behind friends and family members to navigate the tragedy of their loss. 

The unfortunate truth is that suicide can happen to ANY kid in ANY family at ANY time!

Suicide is a teen’s last attempt to ease the pain, to make a statement, or it is just a wrong decision giving a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Teens don’t see the bigger picture; they only see the “right now.”

They get wrapped up in the emotions of the moment and tend to only think about a week ahead — that’s all.  And when you mix immature short-sightedness with feelings of utter hopelessness, some kids think they cannot live with the pain another day.

Other kids who contemplate suicide are filled with rage over teasing by their peers or the way they feel they’ve been mistreated by family.

They choose suicide as a tragic form of payback.

You need to be alert to such warnings, to listen carefully to those around you who may be in crisis. You might think it is safer not to talk about suicide with someone you think is considering it. On the contrary, talking may be the only way to understand the person’s intentions or to confirm your fears. A willingness to listen indicates that you care, that you are willing to help.

Don’t be afraid to say the word “suicide” if you think it may be an option. Getting the word out in the open may help your teen think someone has heard his cries for help,  Support and early intervention can be effective in this matter.

Reassure your teen that you love him or her.  Remind your child that no matter how awful his problems seem, they can be worked out, and you are willing to help.

Ask your teen to talk about his problems. Listen carefully.  Do not dismiss the problems or get angry.

One young suicide survivor shared the following:

“I can’t remember when I didn’t feel different from other kids. They all had friends but no one wanted to play with me. I hated going to school and hated being home. I guess I just hated being me. So I began planning my own death when I was in middle school.”

“I started taking pills from my parent’s medicine cabinet and just storing them. It was comforting to know I could take them at any time and be gone. The only thing stopped me was that I knew how bad they would feel if I was dead. One day my mom yelled at me for not taking out the garbage and I went to my room and swallowed all of them. I don’t know why that day was different from any other day, but it was.”

Fortunately this young man survived, entered a long term adolescent treatment program that offered both individual and family treatment, and received appropriate medication. He still wrestles daily with self-doubts but is starting to talk about these feelings with parents, friends, and a counselor.

Parents should be aware of these other warning signs that their teenager may be having suicidal thoughts:

What you can do to prevent suicide………..

  1. Reach Out – Ask them directly if they are thinking about suicide. It needs to be a direct question that can’t be misinterpreted.“Are you thinking about suicide?”Most people with thoughts of suicide want to talk about it. They want to live – but desperately need someone to hear their pain and offer them help to keep safe.Don’t be afraid to ask them if they are thinking about suicide. This shows you care and they’re not alone.
  2. Listen to them– Allow them to express their feelings. Let them do most of the talking. They will often feel a great sense of relief someone wants to talk to them about their darkest thoughts.
  3. Check their safety – If you are really worried don’t leave them alone. Remove any means of suicide including weapons, medications, drugs, alcohol, even access to a car. Get help by calling Lifeline 13 11 14, or emergency services on 000. You can also take them to the local hospital emergency department.
  4. Decide what to do and take action – Talk about steps you can take together to keep them safe. Don’t agree to keep it a secret, you shouldn’t be the only one supporting this person. You may need help from someone else to persuade them to get help. You can also help by finding out information on what resources and services are available for a person who is considering suicide.
  5. Ask for a promise – Thoughts of suicide may return, so ask them to promise to reach out and tell someone. Asking them to promise makes it more likely they will tell someone.
  6. Get help – There are lots of services and people that can help and provide assistance.
  • GP (doctor)
  • Counselor, psychologist, social worker
  • School Counselor
  • Emergency Services
  • Community Health Centers
  • Crisis support services like Lifeline, Kids helpline
  • Seek support from family and friends, youth group leader, sports coach, priest, minister or religious leader etc.

In some situations they may refuse help and you can’t force them to get help. You need to ensure the appropriate people are aware of the situation. Don’t shoulder this responsibility yourself.

The greatest asset your child has, whether he knows it or not, is a parent who insists on staying in touch with his feelings and what is going on in his life. The best weapon against depression and suicide in teenagers is a parent who knows their child well enough to know when they need help, even if the child is resistant.

Trusting your instincts on this one over rides their objections. Their safety and mental health is too important.  

The bottom line: Know your children, get them to talk and get help.

If I could but have held them in my arms of care,

Brushed away the dark, dank clouds of hopelessness,
And moved them with some pure impassioned prayer:
O, dear one, I know you’re hurting bad,
And prob’ly just need someone who will understand.

Life’s wounds run deep,
But there below our surface waved emotions,
They contact inner strength, no more asleep,
And blending with the currents of compassion,
Will buoy you up to chart uncharted seas.

You may be different from the rest,
But that’s what makes you special,
Your talents are unique and precious,
Enough to help you reach your crest.
Don’t throw it all away!
We need you!!

(From Wholesome Balance)

For More Information Click Below…..

Suicide Prevention Resource Center (http://www.sprc.org/)….. The Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC) provides prevention support, training, and materials to strengthen suicide prevention efforts. Among the resources found on its website is the SPRC Library Catalog (http://library.sprc.org/), a searchable database containing a wealth of information on suicide and suicide prevention, including publications, peer-reviewed research studies, curricula, and web-based resources. Many of these items are available online.

American Association of Suicidology (http://www.suicidology.org/)…… The American Association of Suicidology is a nonprofit organization dedicated to the understanding and prevention of suicide. It promotes research, public awareness programs, public education, and training for professionals and volunteers and serves as a national clearinghouse for information on suicide.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (http://www.afsp.org)….. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) is dedicated to advancing our knowledge of suicide and our ability to prevent it. AFSP’s activities include supporting research projects; providing information and education about depression and suicide; promoting professional education for the recognition and treatment of depressed and suicidal individuals; publicizing the magnitude of the problems of depression and suicide and the need for research, prevention, and treatment; and supporting programs for suicide survivor treatment, research, and education.

The Jed Foundation….. works nationally to reduce the rate of suicide and the prevalence of emotional distress among college and university students.

 Guide on Understanding Bullying …Imagine what it would be like to be bullied online. Honestly, it would be difficult for anyone to deal with the harassment. But, did you know that high school students who were bullied online are twice as likely to attempt suicide?
The bottom line is people who are bullied need the rest of us to be educated and learn how to help and support them.The guide makes it simple to learn the basics about bullying and what you can do to help.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Screening Test…….Many people have a misconception that only veterans get PTSD, but other groups suffer. Victims of sexual violence or natural disasters struggle with PTSD.

More victims of sexual violence are coming forward because of the #MeToo movement, and extreme weather is making natural disasters more frequent and more severe.

Depression is a treatable disease and, with proper intervention, most people can be helped to lead long and productive lives.
 Take Care,
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“Wishing You Lots Of Easter Fun!”

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I love Spring when everything comes alive and it is time to celebrate Easter. I remember growing up with my brothers and s

When we lived at the big farmhouse raising  I loved to decorate with bunnies on the porch to greet visitors and Easter egg garlands.  I crocheted the Cutest Easter Bunnies,  and there were Easter Villages, (like the one below) and Easter Wreaths on the doors.

We dyed lots of Easter eggs and there were New Easter Dresses for the girls and New ties for the boys. When the kids woke up on Easter Morning  there was a fun trail of jelly beans all over the house that led to their Easter Baskets filled with candy and gifts from the Easter Bunny. 

After Breakfast we had a big Easter Egg Hunt outside. We had 10 acres of ground and there were a lot of eggs for everyone.

Let me share with  you a Fun Easter Egg Hunt we attended when we left the big Farmhouse and moved.  This family had a huge horse farm and they invited people from our church over for a big BBQ and a Fun Easter Egg Hunt.

There were Easter eggs of every color all over everywhere. When the kids were given the word they took their baskets and gathered tons of eggs.  Then they went to a place where they dumped their eggs in a big basket and were given Decorated Easter bags with candy and some of the Easter eggs they found. This idea make it possible for little kiddos and older kids to get the same amount.

When that was done a plane flew over the farm and the Easter Bunny, leaning out from the plane threw out candy for everyone. WOW I will never forget that Easter Party nor will the many children that were there. That was AWESOME!!

What do you do for Easter?  Let me share with you some fun ideas that you might want to add to you Easter festivities this year.

Baking is part of the Easter Celebration with cakes, and cookies. Turn the Page and see how pretty this cake is on the inside. (Recipe from The Girl Who Ate Everything)

 

What do you do for Easter? Do you have a big celebration? Let me share with you some fun ideas that would help make your Easter Party Fantastic this year.

Have little hands help out with this bright and beautiful centerpiece. Just make sure they don’t sneak too many Peeps and jelly beans while putting it together! Get Directions Here

This Is So Fun! Cannot Wait To Make One……Easy Spring Flower Garland From Club Chica Circle.

Have a Fantastic Easter Egg Hunt With These Clues From Stuffed Suitcase.

Start Planting a Garden….Marigolds, petunias, can be a fun flower garden for kids. Turn the Page for a Gardening Guide for your region.

Decorate an Easter Tree…you can buy one at The Dollar Store or find a branch, paint it white, or a different color and then add decorations.Learn how to make one below from Rhythms Of Play.

Buy New Easter Outfits For The Family….I remember every year my mom made me and my sister dresses alike. My brothers received new shirts and a tie. When my kids were growing up I made suits for my sons and dresses for my girls. 

Start a Tradition of Growing Your Own Easter Grass + when Easter is over this grass is Edible. Creative Green Living Will Show You What To Do.

For Breakfast Serve Italian Easter Egg Bread, (Recipe From Taste Of Home.) Then Place Colored, Hard-Cooked Eggs into this Fresh-Baked Bread Dough and Enjoy With Your Family.

If you have Older kids With Smart Phones who might want to have some fun in a Easter Egg Hunt send them out with these Printable QR Codes.  This Idea to bring in the Entire Family!   Thanks Bits Of Everything.

It’s Magical For Kids….Easter Bunny Note and Free Print from DimplePrints.

12 Hilarious Easter Games For Family Gatherings….These Easter Games can be played indoors or outdoors. All family will have a blast playing these Family Games! Turn the Page and Playtivities will give you all the details.

How My Gosh How Adorable! Learn How To Make Some Pom Pom Easter Bunnies From ikatbag. Your Kids Will Love To Find a Couple In Their Easter Baskets!

 

Little Girls Would Love To Find A Cute Bunny Necklace In Their Easter Basket…..You Still Have Time To Make Some, So Hop Over To GStore Patters For This Sleeping Bunny Tiny Amigurumi Charm.

 

May we all remember why we really  celebrate Easter. Jesus Christ our brother took upon himself all of our sins and sufferings and died for all of us on a cross. He rose again  from the tomb after 3 days so we can go and live with him again. Enjoy these videos. 

 

Hooray! Happy Father’s Day!

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A day to celebrate fatherhood, Father’s Day is observed on the third Sunday in the month of June in most countries around the world. The occasion gives an opportunity to express love and affection to all fathers and fatherly figures.

Today Is Father’s Day Are You Ready? Have You Been So Busy That You Do Not Have Anything For Dad?

If you are still scrabbling for something to get Dad Let me help with a few ideas I found…..

Easy Father’s Day Gift Idea that is Super easy, Quick To Make With Wordle, and Will Be Loved By Any Man Lucky Enough To Receive One

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You Could Make a Shirt Pocket Card from Holiday Crafts and Creations (Free Printable) and Put a Gift Card In The Pocket Dad Will Love.

 

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Father’s Day “Tee-rrific” Gift Idea! {and Free Printable} by Lindsey From Inspiring Creations at Tatertots & Jello.

Father’s Day "Tee-rrific" Gift Idea! {and free printable} by Lindsey from Inspiring Creations at Tatertots & Jello

 

 

How About A Father’s Day Gift {Treat Jar} + Printable from My Sister’s Suitcase.

Father's Day Gift {Treat Jar} + Printable from My Sister's Suitcase

 

 

 

I Love This Video….Dad, You’re My Hero – Tribute from a daughter to her father.

 

 

Every Dad Would Love a Little Pot Of Candy And You Can’t Forget The Tie!

 

 

Give Dad a Photo Puzzle, Which Makes a Great Visual Reminder Of The Kids He Loves….via eHow.

Father's Day Photo Gift Idea from eHow

 

 

With this caramel crunch brownie recipe from Bakerella, you’ll have Dad raving on the first bite. 

 

 
Fill pages of a this FUN Coupon Book with gifts of thing dad likes to do. Dad will appreciate all of the thoughtful ideas.  Turn the Page and check out We R Memory Keepers to learn how to make one.
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I hope this has helped you with some ideas you can still do to make this Father’s Day more special for Dad. 

Enjoy the Day, Show someone some Love…. If your Dad is looking down from Heaven upon you his child, (mine is) after you have taken the time to Thank him, look for a Dad that is need of a friendly voice a hug a kind gesture and pass that Love along… 
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Saying Thank You To Mom On Mother’s Day


It’s  Mother’s Day 2018!  When I think back to honoring my mother on this day we always had the homemade gifts we would make and I think as a mother of 6 kids those are always my favorite gifts.

I am a mother of 6 AWESOME KIDS and 19 GRANDKIDS. I feel so blessed as a mom and grandma. As they send me gifts I cherish everyone and they always touch my heart.

 I go and see my 88 year old mother every month. She is 5 hours from me but what an honor it is to take care of her in her aging years.

I think I have gotten to know more about her than I ever did when I was growing up.  Sometimes she is very frustrating but then I realize she is fighting to stay independent and that is hard when your sight is almost gone and you have a back that is way bent over with Scoliosis.

I remember when she had to get a NEW knee.  I went up to take care of her and as she tried to lay on her couch and I on the loveseat, what memories we made that night.

She grew up very poor and her mom died when she was only 10 years old. She taught me a lot growing up from putting me in 4-H, (won a lot of first place ribbons at the fair) piano lessons for 10 years, some singing lessons and always tell the truth.

This year with my siblings we wanted to get something different so we purchase an Alexa. She said she wanted someone to talk to, as my dad died 18 years ago. I really think she will love it.

Lets go out and Celebrate Our Mothers this year and really show them how much they mean to us.

Now lets talk about other ways to celebrate mom this year…..

 

Incredible Paper Peonies By Dreamy Posy……Can you believe that these beautiful paper peonies were made with Printer Paper!?

Turn the Page  To See How To Make a Beautiful Bouquet for Mom.

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A simple step by step tutorial shows you how to make a Beautiful Handmade DIY Birds Nest Necklace that looks absolutely stunning from Busy Creating Memories.

 

 

DIY Mother’s Day Gift: Edible Fruit Flower Arrangement From Divas Can Cook. 

DIY Raspberry and Lemon Sugar Scrub Recipes with FREE Printable Gift Labels..via Reasons to Skip the Housework

 

DIY Farmhouse Style Flower Pots….. Make cute, quirky flower pots with just some chalk paint and a sharpie! These would be cute herb planters or succulent planters. They are inexpensive – even cheap at less than ten bucks for the whole set! It’s a great gift for Mother’s Day! (Via Our Handcrafted Life)

A Very Easy Jewelry Project To Make…..DIY Essential Oil Diffuser Bracelet.   (Via Everything Etsy)

 

Cute Gifts…Crochet Spiral Scrubbies In 5 Minutes Flat, Perfect For Washing Up and In The Shower & Machine Washable..via The Whoot.

 

Ladies This Is A Great Mother’s Day Gift For YOU….Get Your Post Spring Box At FABFITFUN ONLY $39.99 With Code SUNSHINE.

eos Lip Balm Printable Mothers Day Cards… Make The Perfect Card For Your Special Mom. It is a Mother’s Day Card She Can Use! 

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It’s Time To Garden Make Mom Some Gardener’s Bliss Hand Salve…..via Hearth and Vine.

Have a Wonderful Mother’s Day,

 

 

 
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Affordable Ways To Say I Love You On Valentine’s Day

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Why do we celebrate Valentine’s Day? Love comes in many forms… Appreciation, Admiration, and Friendship, Let me share a few ideas I have found to make this Valentine’s Day Even More Special. ❤ ❤

Spread Valentine Love With 28 Acts Of Kindness via Craft Create Cook. ❤

 

Make a Valentine Tree….To make this a meaningful family activity, each family member could decorate a heart or write a love note....via Simply Kierste.com ❤

Easy Valentines Day Table Runner and New Sew Too!  (via H2OBungalow) ❤

Easy Valenines Day table runner takes no time at all to whip up and stores easily by rolling up until next year. www.H2OBungalow.com #valentinesday

 

These DIY Valentine Stamps will help your kids create loads of Valentine Cards.  (Via Fuzzy Mama) ❤

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Make Some Love Bug Oreo Cookies – Delish Hot & Spicy Cinnamon Oreos dressed to impress for Valentine’s Day.

(via Sarah’s Cake Studio) ❤

 

 

“Our Friendship Rocks” – what more is there to say? Gorgeous Fingerprint Heart Rocks for Valentines. The perfect Classroom Valentines Gift to make with kids…via Red Ted Art. ❤

 

 

Store-Bought Chocolate Repackaged in a Homemade Wrapper — The Underside Reveals a Handwritten Love Note — Tastes Doubly Delicious. ..via Martha Stewart.

 

Help your Kids Create a Beautiful Bracelet to Give to all of their Best Friends. The Simple Bracelet is made using Twine and Beads with Heart Drawings.  (via Moms and Crafters) ❤

 

Strawberry Cheesecake Lasagna – You love lasagna as a main dish, so why dessert too? Layers of Fresh strawberries, Sweet Cream, and Graham Crackers! (via Dinners, Dishes, and Desserts) ❤

 

 

 

Bliss Gardens Air Plant Terrarium Kit , $24.95, Amazon.com  …..Don’t get her a dozen roses this year, make her a Customized Terrarium. This kit that includes a glass vessel, pebbles, an amethyst crystal, a dried thistle and an air plant. Since air plants only need to be watered once a week, they’re super easy to care for so she can keep her mini-garden thriving with ease — even if she doesn’t have a green thumb. ❤

 

 

 

This easy recipe for a Valentine’s Day Cookie Cake, stuffed with white chocolate chips and an abundance of sprinkles, is sure to be a crowdpleaser! (via Bake du Jour) ❤

 

 

 

Have a Wonderful Valentine’s Day and Remember to say, “I love you To Everyone In Your Family!” ❤

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Let Me Be a Child

Let Me Be A Child


Let me know when I make you proud.
And help me to have pride in my own accomplishments.
Let me earn your trust. Then trust me.
I won’t let you down.
Let me know you love me with a hug or a pat on the back.
Or, when I need it, with a firm but gentle “no”
Let me be. Let me change. Let me grow.
Let me dream. Share my joy when my dreams come true.
Share my tears when they don’t.
Let me feel secure in my home. Help me realize that love is always there.
That I can depend on you no matter what.
Let me run. let me laugh. let me play.
And most of all, let me be a child.

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Sometimes it amazes me the demands that are placed on children these days. While as parents we can all say that we had it “harder” then our kids do now because we had to be creative and play with our imagination where as now there are video games and computers.

Let’s face it, the pressure that is put on our children today to grow up fast is really out of control.

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We have them in multiple sports, we push them to join different clubs, their peers put pressure on them to look more grown up and dress more grown up and the media encourages this.

Take a look at the toys we want our little girls to play with, Bratz and Barbie… or have a look at the style of clothes that are available, do those toys look innocent to you?

Life passes us by quick enough as it is. Let your child be a child, regardless of how old they are. To help make sure your child isn’t robbed of their youth, here are several tips you can follow, one for each day of the week to think about.

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Follow the principle that Regular Playtime is vital for everyone.

 Get in touch with our own playfulness. Kids really do model what they see. Present a picture of adulthood that children will want to grow up to emulate.

Tell the kids it’ll be a laid-back summer. Ask them to create a fun bucket list of which activities they want to keep… and which they want to toss.

Parents may be shocked by what they say they want to quit doing. Sometimes kids do things because we want them to, and somehow we fail to notice their heart hasn’t been in it.

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Arrange low-key times with friends and family. This may mean turning down some invitations and setting aside an evening as family night. Make sure kids have regular opportunities to just hang out with family and friends.

 Encourage free-range (not pre-packaged), natural and spontaneous play— like a sandbox in the backyard, blocks and impromptu neighborhood soccer games, instead of an amusement park, elaborate toys and soccer camp.

 Make sure children also have total down time for lying in the grass looking at the sky, or sitting on the sidewalk sharing a stick of gum with a friend.

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Show trust in giving youngsters some freedom. Have confidence that when a child is off on his own and enjoying and directing himself in activities he chooses, that is his “job”. The chances are that whatever innocent activities he’s doing of his own free will are better than any “enriching” activity we might impose on him.

Children need to play. It’s their work. All mammals play; it’s their way of learning skills they’ll need when they’re full-grown, from finding food to getting along with others. It’s also the way small humans process their emotions.

Thinking back to our own best childhood memory, it won’t be a class or lesson, but the time we were allowed to just be.

“Children learn through playing, through active exploration that feeds their imagination, not by always having others organize the world for them.”

How can you let your kid just be a kid?

There’s a good chance that your child is, right now, making his own Harry Potter broomstick out of a stick he found in the backyard … and he might prefer it to the pricey vibrating plastic version you were thinking of buying him.

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“Children learn through play — through puzzles, games, and questions and answers. They also learn on the playground — they learn about nature, weather and the seasons, motion, concepts of distance and speed, and cause and effect. They learn how to negotiate and talk with their peers.

If you live in an area where you can let your child run amok with his friends outdoors, let him; if you don’t, remember that just hanging with friends and neighbors indoors can be great too. 

The result sometimes necessitates that you wear earplugs  on a Saturday afternoon but that is preferable to the eerie silence that descends when little kids are locked for hours in the world of video games.

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Providing an environment where family plays and have fun together is not an option, for us it is a must.

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Find something that your family will enjoy.

Board games, hiking, fishing, camping, playing sports, biking, reading, watching a movie,

any activity that provides a quality family fun time will unite our children while making memories that they will never forget.

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In my family we spent time together, we had fun together, we played together.

In the end, learning who we are primarily takes place not in the act of doing, but in the quiet spaces between things, when we can reflect upon what we have done and who we are. The more of these quiet spaces families provide for kids, the better.

We must remember they are children and it’s crucial we let them enjoy this part of their lives by letting them just be a kid.

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Memories are not free, however they don’t cost money but time and that is what makes them so valuable.

We can build them around the most simple moments.

It is for us to make each moment count, no matter our circumstances, our past,

or how much or how little we have, we can create a place called home

when every child is entitled to a beautiful childhood.

SO LET’S IMAGINE A MOMENT AND CREATE A MEMORY!

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Eggs-tra Special Easter Egg Hunts

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Do you love Easter egg hunts? Me Too. If you are hosting an Easter get-together this year with your family, friends, or neighbors, here are some great Easter egg hunt ideas and steps to help you plan a successful hunt!

 

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Easter Egg Hunting began in America when German immigrants brought their Osterhase tradition to Pennsylvania in the 1700s. The festivity soon spread across the nation, and baskets replaced nests. Eventually, the game evolved into a treasure hunt, and the prizes expanded from just hard-boiled eggs to include chocolate, candy, toys and coins. In many families, the Easter Bunny leaves a basket filled with gifts, not just eggs to find.

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It’s time to hunt without further delay!
Go out the place where you play in the sun,
that’s where you’ll find all the Easter fun.
Then like you always do, just like is you habit,
put all the pieces together and you get to keep this cute pink chocolate bunny rabbit!
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 To avoid jealousy and hard feelings at an Easter Egg hunt for your kids or grandkids, use the same color eggs for each person. Example…..blue for Todd, pink for Addie, yellow, green and purple for other kids, etc. 

Then take one egg of each color and put the same thing in each.  Continue until all the eggs are filled.  For the hunt, tell each kid what color is theirs and to only pick up eggs of that color. That way everyone has the same amount of eggs and the same amount of “goodies”.  No one gets their feeling hurt.

Leave Tell Tale Prints….. Make bunny footprints near each hidden Easter egg to give the kids some easy hints as to where the eggs are hidden.

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You can also try making the footprints out of plain paper or even sprinkle some talcum powder and put a bunny paw print in it with your fingers.

 

Confetti Eggs

Mix a few of these in with the regular eggs for a fun surprise at the end of the hunt.
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Personalized Eggs….Older kids often grab all the treats because they are faster at finding eggs and small prizes. In this hunt, each person has to look for a specific color egg or a prize with their initial on it. Letter stickers from a crafts store are easy to stick on and make each egg unique. Not only does this equal out the distribution of candy and gifts but it allows you to give specific treats to kids based on their interests.
Tips: Have fun with what you put in the eggs. Small games, fortunes, pennies, photographs, and special notes are all great alternatives to jelly beans.
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The Bunny Treasure Map….In this hunt, the Easter Bunny has left a map to the prizes but the kids will have to put together all of the pieces to find the hiding spot. Draw a map or write a clue on colored card stock or a pre-cut blank puzzle. One side should be brightly colored and the map should be drawn on the back. Cut the map in pieces and hide it around the house. When all the pieces are found, kids must try to assemble the map that will lead them to their Easter basket treat.
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Tips: Count how many pieces you have so you’ll know when it is time for the kids to start assembling the puzzle. You can also number each piece so kids know how many pieces they are trying to find.
Golden and Sliver Egg Hunt: Place a golden and a silver egg in a hard to find spot with money in it.
420 golden egg istockphotoSuper Secret Message Egg…..Hide a little message in each egg. It is just like a fortune cookie…only with eggs!
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 Easter Egg Eggstravaganza …...Fill each of the eggs with a slip of paper with a task that the finder has to  complete such as a sing “Itsy Bity Spider,” name three fruits that are red, or do a handstand. This is an Easter egg hunt so make them fun. Once the finder does the task, they can pick out a piece of candy or a toy.
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Night time Egg Hunt….Kids need to have adults with them and do it in a safe place. Grab a flash light and go on a hunt to find the eggs under the moon and stars. Place glow sticks in the eggs.

 
“Find Your Name” Egg Hunt….Before the hunt, write each child’s name on an egg. The child that finds the egg with their name on it first wins a prize.
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Make sure every last egg is found by tipping off the kids with this cute printable clue cards.
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Along with plastic Easter Eggs there are other things you can hide.  You can wrap bigger items in plastic wrap or cellophane and tie with a bow. Some ideas are…
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Jump Ropes and other outside toys
Large Container Bubbles
Dolls
Action Figures
Crayons with Coloring Book
Socks cute Easter socks fit in the larger eggs and are fun for the kids.
Tattoos – gives the kids something to do.
Gift Certificates – maybe for McDonald’s or your local frozen yogurt shop
Small whistles – if you are brave!
Glow in the dark star stickers for the ceiling
Lego mini building set – spread the pieces over a few eggs
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Indoor Hunt….Don’t let a rainy day spoil the Easter Egg Hunt—an inside hunt can be as fun.  Designate which rooms will be part of the hunt.  The difficulty can be based on the age of the kids.  You can even designate rooms for different age groups. You can even designate rooms for different age groups.  For younger kids, hide the eggs in places they are visible.  For older kids and teens, you can really bury those eggs.
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Make a More Challenging Egg Hunt……There are several things you can do to make a traditional egg hunt more challenging for older kids.

Find creative places to hide the eggs to give an egg hunt more appeal. If you can, hide the eggs in an unfamiliar location. Hide them in the woods or a park. Pick a place that has a lot of nooks and crannies. Make the hunt boundaries large to increase the places they can be hidden.

These are good idea for groups that also have younger children. The older kids can look for the more complex hiding spots while the younger kids can find easily hidden eggs.

Ice Cream Hunt–Hunting for ice cream?….. In each egg, put ice cream toppings. Some examples could be jelly beans, sprinkles, M&M’s, marshmallows, butterscotch chips, and anything else that would fir in those little plastic refillable eggs are found, each hunter will make their own ice cream in a bag! This works well outside on a nice day. You can google “ice cream in a bag” and get a zillions recipes like this one.
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One tip, though, have your baggies made up ahead of time so as soon as the egg hunting is done, the kids can immediately start making their ice cream. You will also want to have gloves or socks handy because the bags get really cold!
Once the ice cream is made, they can add all the toppings to their bag of ice cream!
coins-in-easter-eggEgg Puzzle…..Tell your children the Easter Bunny left them a puzzle, and they have to locate all of the puzzle pieces to find out what the grand finale prize is. To set up the puzzle, on a large sheet of paper, write a message to your children. Then, divide up the paper to look like puzzle pieces and cut out the individual pieces. Hide each piece in an egg. Once the kids have found all the puzzle pieces they can lay them out on the floor to read their special message and find the big prize the Easter Bunny left for them.
 
Creative Egg Stuffers….Mix it up this year and take the candy out of Easter. Yup, you read that right–ditch the sugar. The kids are already “hopped” up enough on their natural energy anyway. Fill the eggs with fun surprises the children will never expect.
Some Ideas are…..
Money
Movie Tickets
Stickers
Gum
IOU notes (example….One Large Banana Split to make up for all sugar lost on Easter!)
 
The Easter Challenge……The Easter challenge is a fun party game version of an Easter egg hunt that older children and adults will love. Instead of hiding candy eggs, you would hide small plastic eggs. Inside each egg would be a task that has to be completed.
Sing a song, recite a verse from memory, jump on one foot for  10 seconds, draw a picture, etc. After each task is completed, the child receives another treat for their basket.  Make sure to keep a camera on hand to capture all the fun!
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Story Egg Hunt
Create or find an Easter story. (This is a good hunt to include the religious meaning and story of Easter). Print it out and then cut it apart into strips. Number the strips in order and place them in eggs for the hunt. After the hunt – have the hunters sit in a circle and take turns reading the parts of the story form their eggs in orde
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 Story Egg Hunt……Create or find an Easter Story. (This is a good hunt to include the religious meaning and story of Easter.)
 Print it out and then cut it apart into strips. Number the strips in order and place them in the eggs for the hunt.  After the hunt–have the hunters sit in a circle and take turns reading the parts of the story from the eggs in order.

Find an organized Easter egg hunt in your area……

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Just because a get-together is called an Easter egg hunt does not mean other activities cannot be going on besides the hunt. Plenty of spring activities can be done at Easter. Set up stations of activities that kids can do either by themselves, or have a grown-up rotate in to help their kids. Stations might include:

The ideas mentioned above not only make the Easter special, but memorable too. In fact, using a bit of creativity, anybody can come up with such fun ideas. So, what are you waiting for?
There are so many ways to make the tradition of an Easter egg hunt fun!

Happy Easter Egg hunting!

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A Basket Full of Memories

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As you become older you realize that memories and treasured keepsakes are what you come away with from your childhood.  Memories connect our pasts, our present, and our futures — and they connect us to one another. What situations come into your mind when someone asks you to remember your childhood memories?

 Life flies by fast and before you know it your kids will be grown. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to make sure that your children have fond memories of growing up. Will your kids remember their Xbox or will they remember the two of you running through the sprinklers on a hot day?

 

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Childhood memories are usually the simplest of things. Remember when you learned to ride your first bike?  Jumping in a pile of leaves in the fall, making mudpies, snowball fights, playing in the rain, chasing butterflies, gathering eggs in the hen house, playing “dress up” like mom, hunting with dad, turning the crank on the ice cream.

We all have memories of our childhood that are cherished in our hearts forever. It’s not the things that cost the most money, it’s the time spent with the ones we love the most that we’ll always remember. Young parents of today should always try to spend quality time with their children. It’s not what you buy them, but the memories you make together, that they’ll look back on when they’re grown. The simple pleasures that cost nothing, yet are priceless.

A First Memory Starter….

Write your child a letter soon after they are born. Fill it with your thoughts, hopes, dreams and the experience of bringing a new life into the world. Place your note in an envelope and inscribe, “On the day you were born” on it, and tuck it in a journaling-type book.

Each year on your child’s birthday, write another letter to her—fill it with the memories, milestones, dreams, events, ideas and the life that you and your family have created throughout the year. When your child grows up and has a place of his or her own, present the book and continue to send the letters on your child’s birthday.

You will have written a book and told the story of two very special people: you and your child.

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 How To Make Memories….

On Your  Lap. It’s the best place in the entire world for a book, story, or conversation. And it’s been right in front of you the whole time.

Hugs and Kisses. I once heard the story of a man who told his 7-year old son that he had grown too old for kisses. I tear up every time I think of it. Know that your children are never too old to receive physical affirmation of your love for them.

Meals Together. Meals provide unparalleled opportunity for relationship, the likes of which can not be found anywhere else. So much so, that a family that does not eat together does not grow together.

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You may not be an animal lover – but getting any kind of pet can do miracles! It doesn’t only mean endless joy for your children but it also is a great way to teach them what responsibility is. You don’t have to get a dog or a cat, there are so many animals that make great and easy to keep pets.

Try hamster, fish, parrot or even a turtle. Teach your kid how to feed it and train it. Your children will love you for getting them a pet and you will love the effect it will have on their character. Your first pet is always one of the greatest childhood memories…

 

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You can visit a foreign country, a big city or a village – the important thing is to go to a road trip together as  a family at least once! Wander, explore, experience, bond and create unforgettable memories. You will learn your kids to love traveling and make the most of the chance to spend couple of whole days together.

Holidays and family trips are one of the things we remember with joy . Fill your family album with lots of photos and funny captures!

 

 

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Give Them The Gift Of Growing Up With These Memories…..

Play with the garden hose

Spot shapes in the clouds

Tell them about God

Hold them when they cry

Sometimes in the summer we would go to the drive-in movie….Mom always made a big sack of popcorn and a Memory I will always remember.

 

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Play dress up

Driving Lessons

Let them climb into bed with you when they have a bad dream

Turn off your cell phone and spend time with them

Camp

Tell them you love them every day

Make Snow Ice Cream

Read them fairy tales

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Create new everyday rituals: warm vanilla milk, a story or a kiss on the forehead before bedtime—special touches that will help your child drift off to a peaceful sleep.

Kite Flying

Give second chances, third chances, fourth chances…

Piano Lessons

Tell them you believe in them

Sandcastles

Blow on a Dandelion and make a wish

 

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Go to the Library

Be kind to them so they’ll learn to be kind

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“Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.”

TIP: RECIPE FOR PRESERVING CHILDREN

Ingredients:

  • 1 grassy field
  • 1/2 dozen (or more) children
  • several dogs (and puppies, if available)
  • 1 brook
  • several pebbles

Steps:

  1. Into field, pour children and dogs — allowing to mix well.
  2. Pour brook over pebbles til slightly frothy.
  3. Cool children and dogs slightly in brook.
  4. When dry, serve with milk and freshly baked gingerbread cookies.

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Each parent would have many stories to tell about their children. These stories would have many moments which are cherishable, memorable and wonderful. All these experiences could make each parent an author of a book.

So how do we Save these memories?   Keepy, a tool that lets you snap and store photos of your kids and the stuff they do. Keepy also lets kids and their “followers” add voice and video comments.

If your children had to share their life story with someone else, what memories would be the basis for their story? Now is the time to shape their story with living memories that will last a lifetime.

You are  going to blink and these little people – who, for now, see you  as the beginning and the end of the universe – are going to be all grown up.  Make sure that when that day comes, they will look back and smile and remember the little moments like these. I know I will.

Are you making time to create memories with your children?

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A Priceless Gift Called Gratitude

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Parents know what they have to teach children. They teach them manners, and how to use the potty. They teach them how to eat at the table, how to get dressed in the morning, and eventually, how to tie their own shoes. Sadly, one of the forgotten teachings of parenthood is teaching children how to be grateful. When is the last time you taught your child to be grateful. As a parent, it is immensely important for children, even very young ones – to realize that a grateful heart can lead to great things in life.

Gratitude doesn’t come naturally to our children.  It is learned. So, as parents, “Teaching our Children Gratitude” should be at the top of our parental-to-do-list.

Happiness is a skill that parents can teach their children and the relationship between gratitudegratitude2-1 and happiness is really strong. People who spend more time doing things that express their gratitude tend to be considerably happier than people who don’t.Children who express gratitude are kinder, more appreciative, more empathetic, happier and more enthusiastic. Grateful children understand that other people have needs and they look outside themselves. They are more polite, usually better behaved and generally more pleasant to be around.

LIVE WITH AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Imagine for a moment one of those nights when you just can’t fall asleep and you have to get up early the next morning for a very important meeting of which you are the keynote speaker. Your alarm clock goes off early in the morning waking you from what little sleep you had. You stumble out of bed, have a quick shower, grab a coffee and some toast, and off you go to fight the traffic on the way to work.

Does that sound like the start of a terrible day? Most would answer ‘yes’. Few people however, would answer, ‘no’. These are the people, who are in my opinion blessed with a gift. A gift that determines how they view their life. These people live with ‘an attitude of gratitude’. For them, the situation described could be worse. Much worse. For example, think of the man who doesn’t have a bed, let alone a roof to over his head. When he is awoken from what little sleep he is able to get, it is by the rain falling on his cold body. He too stumbles to his feet and begins his journey to work in his bare feet. His work is in the field of survival. He searches though garbage cans for scraps of half-rotten food to eat and odd bits of clothes to keep him warm.

gratitudeThe purpose of this example is to illustrate that we all have so much to be grateful for. Even in times when it seems that nothing could be worse, there is always a reason to be grateful. And when you feel a sense of gratitude, you feel a sense of happiness and content. My challenge to you today is to learn to look for the good in every situation and live with ‘an attitude of gratitude’.

I assure you, if you were the fellow searching for food in garbage cans you too could find things to be grateful for. You just have to look hard enough and ‘open your eyes’ to what is around you. You have to focus on what’s good in your life, not what’s bad.

“I once was distraught because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet.” – Unknown

Life works in mysterious ways. Time and time again there have been stories of people who are in a dire strait yet they are found helping others who are experiencing greater turmoil. This is because once you have helped someone in greater need than yourself, you always feel better. You feel better because you have helped another human being, and this forces you to change your mindset from focusing on your problems to focusing on their solutions.

3601243290_ba8443f6ecAlways focus on the solution, not the problem and live with an attitude of gratitude! Mother Teresa was a primary example of this phenomenon. Her entire life revolved around helping others in need. As a result she experienced a great deal of love and self-satisfaction in her life.

I challenge you now to take a moment to think of five things in your life that you are grateful for today. For example, your friends, your family, your job, your sense of smell, touch, sight, and sound. The list can go on and on. Imagine what your life would be like without these things. Write them down on a piece of paper and really think about the things you are grateful for. You will be amazed at how great you will feel!

Gratitude is such a brilliant gift that has been bestowed upon us if we choose it. The sophistication of this gift is simple. It is a choice. Be thankful for what you have, who you are and who you can be. It’s all about perception. It doesn’t matter what societal status you come from, what your wallet has in it or how you were culturally raised. Be thankful for what you have and feel right now in this exact moment in time. Hard times and good times. These are all opportunities to acknowledge gratitude. To give a shout out to gratitude. As we teach our children to witness this invisible mind thought, the concept emerges within them just as easy as they learn how to brush their teeth, their ABC’s or how to tie their shoes. These are life skills they will use through-out their whole life.  Gratitude can be a wholesome part of your healthy intentional conscious parenting routine.

Recognizing The Good

There is a story — maybe an urban legend, but full of truth nonetheless — concerning the famous violinist Itzhak Perlman.

As a child he had been stricken with polio and getting on stage is no small feat for him. He wears braces on both thank-you-quoteslegs and uses crutches. One evening, Perlman was in New York to give a concert. Perlman crossed the stage slowly until he reached the chair,  seated himself, and signaled to the conductor to begin.

No sooner had he finished the first few bars then one of the strings on his violin snapped, echoing loudly through the theatre like a gunshot. Perlman was at the beginning of the piece and it would have been reasonable to bring the concert to a halt while he replaced the string to begin again. But that’s not what he did. He waited a moment and signaled the conductor to pick up just where they had left off.

Perlman had only three strings on which to play his soloist part. He was able to find some of the missing notes on adjoining strings, but where that wasn’t possible, he had to spontaneously reorganize the music so that it all still held together.

He played with passion and artistry, instinctively rearranging the symphony right through to the end. When he finally rested his bow, the audience sat for a moment in stunned silence. Then, rising to their feet, they gave a standing ovation. Each person in the audience knew they had been witness to an extraordinary display of human skill and ingenuity.

Perlman raised his bow to signal for quiet. “You know,” he said, “sometimes it is the artist’s task to find out how much beautiful music you can still make with what you have left.”

We have to wonder, was he speaking of his violin strings or his crippled body?

gratitude-3-tpl-bkgdCircumstances can throw us off our game or they can strengthen our determination and desire to create a positive outcome. The Hebrew term for gratitude is hikarat hatov, which means, literally, “recognizing the good.” Practicing gratitude means recognizing the good that is already in our lives. With a daily practice of giving thanks, our perspective shifts.  Gratitude is a powerful perspective that energizes positive action, and therefore creates a more fulfilling life.

If we thought about it, we would find that we don’t give or hear expressions of gratitude as often as we should. If you feel this way you are certainly not alone. Remembering to Express Gratitude can help us and our family members. Gratitude is more than an inner feeling. When good things are happening around us, when we’re with those we love and we’re grateful and we’re expressing it, the feeling of love and tenderness grows.  Gratitude can bring a calming feeling.

 
(In April of 2005, a young mom was confronted with a diaper rash that just wouldn’t quit. The rash needed some fresh air to heal, but she was also concerned about keeping her daughter warm. In a moment of inspiration, she snipped the feet off of a pair of socks and fitted her daughter from hip to ankle with a cool set of leg warmers. These leg warmers not only kept her daughter warm, but also protected her from the elements, made diaper changing and potty training easier, and protected her soft knees while crawling. With some fun designs and some grassroots marketing support, the functional and fashionable leg warmers that began as a solution to keep little legs warm quickly became much more.)

 

So what is gratitude, really? It includes saying “thank you” and being polite. But it is more than that. Expressing Gratitude is the beginning of courtesy, generosity, concern and appreciation for family members and others.

A deeply felt and fully expressed gratitude is an effective way to positively influence attitudes and behavior, our own and that of others. Learning to feel and express gratitude can have a significant effect on the happiness and success of every family member.

gratitude-300x300“A frustrated mother once complained to her neighbor that no one in her family seemed to appreciate what she did. They never commented on how much effort she spent cleaning the house, decorating their home for holidays, and keeping their clothes clean and pressed. They never thanked her for the good meals she prepared or for taking them to school or to work. … She was annoyed that they took her for granted.

“Her neighbor replied, ‘Marianne, you have a clean and attractively kept house. Your children go to school and to their meetings clean and neat. You are an excellent cook, and I can’t think of anyone who is more faithful than you are about doing your Church callings.

“ ‘I suspect that your husband and children recognize your efforts as being praiseworthy. It is possible that other members of your family feel the same discouragement as you do because it just isn’t the practice at your home to express appreciation’ ”

  • • What did the neighbor bring to Marianne’s attention?

In order to develop and teach gratitude to those in our families we must first awaken within ourselves the attitude of being appreciative. “It is as important for our families to learn to express gratitude to one another as it is to receive it from one another. If we don’t teach others to express their appreciation by our example and by our instruction, they may not learn this important courtesy. … If we want others to continue doing what they are doing, the best thing we can do is to let them know how much we appreciate it”

It is one thing to teach your child how to say thank you. It is something entirely different to teach them how to feel it.

So how do we help our families learn Gratitude?  Let me share these 10 ways to help make that happen……….

1.album-gratitude Keep a Gratitude Journal. Establish a daily practice in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits, and good things you enjoy. Setting aside time on a daily basis to recall moments of gratitude associated with ordinary events, your personal attributes, or valued people in your life gives you the potential to interweave a sustainable life theme of gratefulness.

2. Remember the Bad. To be grateful in your current state, it is helpful to remember the hard times that you once experienced. When you remember how difficult life used to be and how far you have come, you set up an explicit contrast in your mind, and this contrast is fertile ground for gratefulness.

3. Ask Yourself Three Questions. Utilize the meditation technique known as Naikan, which involves reflecting on three questions: “What have I received from __?”, “What have I given to __?”, and “What troubles and difficulty have

4. Learn Prayers of Gratitude. In many spiritual traditions, prayers of gratitude are considered to be the most powerful form of prayer, because through these prayers people recognize the ultimate source of all they are and all they will ever be.I caused?”

5. Come to Your Senses. Through our senses—the ability to touch, see, smell, taste, and hear—we gain an appreciation of what it means to be human and of what an incredible miracle it is to be alive. Seen through the lens of gratitude, the human body is not only a miraculous construction, but also a gift.

6. Use Visual Reminders. Because the two primary obstacles to gratefulness are forgetfulness and a lack of gratitudemindful awareness, visual reminders can serve as cues to trigger thoughts of gratitude. Often times, the best visual reminders are other people.

7. Make a Vow to Practice Gratitude. Research shows that making an oath to perform a behavior increases the likelihood that the action will be executed. Therefore, write your own gratitude vow, which could be as simple as “I vow to count my blessings each day,” and post it somewhere where you will be reminded of it every day.

8. Watch your Language. Grateful people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortune, fortunate, and abundance. In gratitude, you should not focus on how inherently good you are, but rather on the inherently good things that others have done on your behalf.

9. Go Through the Motions. If you go through grateful motions, the emotion of gratitude should be triggered. Grateful motions include smiling, saying thank you, and writing letters of gratitude.

10. Think Outside the Box. If you want to make the most out of opportunities to flex your gratitude muscles, you must creatively look for new situations and circumstances in which to feel grateful.

Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., (who wrote these steps to Gratitude) is the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude. He is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, and the founding editor-in-chief of The Journal of Positive Psychology.

Heart of Gratitude…

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said :  ‘ I am blind, please help.’  There were only a few coins in the hat.A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write? ”
The man said, ” I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.”
I wrote : ‘ Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it.’
Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective? Be thankful for what you have.  Be Creative.  Be innovative. Think differently and positively..

 

 

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Enjoy your day with a heart of gratitude. 🙂

To teach our children the value of gratefulness, we want to be sure to role model grateful behavior:

Children need to see us being grateful for what we have. That might mean not running out to by the latest pocketbook and newest electronic gadget.

Let them see you saying thank you to the postman, the store clerk, and your friends.

Tell them, “I am so grateful to have you in my life.” If that is too corny for you, you can say, (when they come home from school), “It is good to see you.”

Let them see you and your spouse thank each other. Thank your spouse for making dinner, for taking out the garbage, cleaning a clogged drain or for making the phone call to Aunt Ethel, something you really didn’t want to do.

Don’t complain about all the things you don’t have.

Write a gratitude journal and tell them about it in a non-confrontational, friendly way.

Enjoy the beauty around you and point it out to your children. Sunsets, the sun shining on the snow, laughing babies and blossoming trees.

Understanding child/teen development and their limitations gives us insights into their frustrating but necessary behavior. Being grateful for what we have is one of the secrets of successful living. Fostering gratefulness in ourselves will enhance our family life and give our children the direction they need to cultivate their own happiness.

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“If you look to others for fulfillment
you will never truly be fulfilled.
If your happiness depends on money,
You will never be happy with yourself
Be content with what you have;
Rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
The whole world belongs to you
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~Lao Tzu

Gratitude is more than an attitude, more than polite manners and positive thinking. It is a way of life and a magnificent legacy to leave our children. So, don’t think about how to instill gratitude in children, instead start taking these steps to instill this significant attitude in your family today, for a better tomorrow.

There is no such thing as gratitude unexpressed.  If it is unexpressed, it is plain, old-fashioned ingratitude.  ~Robert Brault

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What is a Dad………….Lessons From The Delivery Room

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Not all men who have fathered a child are dads. Being a dad—an honest to goodness, authentic, true and bonafide  dad—means much more than genetic parentage.

thumbnail.aspxIn the first place, a dad is a friend—even when it’s not convenient. For instance, one morning I went down to the lake near my home to watch the fishermen. There, fishing along the rocky bank, were old men with skinny, hairless legs protruding from faded denim pants; young boys with their shirts off, laughing, casting their lines frequently; large women, patiently engulfing their small wicker chairs; all types and sizes of outdoorsmen.

Among them sat a large and muscular man. And straddling his massive knee with spindly legs was a small girl, dishwater pigtails falling from under a straw hat. The girl had both hands wrapped around a long cane pole. One of his hands covered both of hers, while the other rested on his knee. The two of them sat there quietly, watching a red and white bubble bob in the water a few feet from shore.

His open tackle box displayed the gear of an experienced fisherman: flies and plugs for bass, trolling gear for lake trout, and a large assortment of streamers to lure the wily German Brown.

But today it was mudcats.

That large man with the little girl on his lap was a dad. He cared enough about his daughter to spend time with her on her terms, not his. He didn’t take her fishing so he could go fishing; he went fishing so he could be with her, to do something she would enjoy doing.

That’s one way to separate the fathers-in-name-only from the dads. Too many men are willing to be a dad only when the children are going an adult direction or when they share the same interests, hobbies, or skills. But a true dad builds a relationship that includes the child’s own interests and level of understanding.

One father I know used to spend an hour a day with his boy, playing basketball. On the surface that fathers-day-poem-daughterseems admirable—until you realize that it was the father, not the son, who loved the sport. This father’s childhood dream was to be a basketball star. He never made it. And so, because he wanted his boy to succeed where he had failed, they drilled on the basketball court every day.

The son did become a star—a high school all-star and a college hero. But while gaining a star, the father lost a son. Instead of building a healthy relationship, their time together actually drove father and son further apart.

The quality of the time parents spend with their children is as important as the time itself. When parents become rigid or demanding in order to gratify their own egos, or for any selfish motive, they destroy the very relationship they are trying to build. And being a friend to children doesn’t mean, of course, that dads need to be silly or immature. Children must also learn to respect their parents as the competent adults they have become.

Another requirement of dad-hood is that quality which blends authority and unconditional love to make dad both a respected authority and a loved companion to youth. Most fathers do all right on the stern side of this balance. Of course, it takes a little sternness at times to preside over frolicking pre-adolescents and presumptuous teenagers. But real dads realize that rules are made for the benefit and progress of the children, not for their condemnation. There is a time to be stern and a time to show love, perhaps even a time to bend the rules once the lesson is learned.

10359Take, for example, one situation I remember where a dad—call him Bob—had to have an especially large amount of wisdom. Larry, Bob’s oldest boy, had just obtained a driver’s license. Bob had established rules for the use of the family car, such as obeying the law, driving safely, and returning home on time. Disobedience meant forfeiture of the car’s use for two weeks.

The week of the junior prom, however, Larry received a ticket for speeding. There was a decision to be made, and not an easy one. Would Larry remember the lesson better if he were denied the use of the car for the prom? Would he become more responsible if he had to pay such a high price for disobedience? Or would he become resentful and rebellious, thus defeating the purpose of the rule?

Bob struggled with the dilemma for a couple of days. And then from somewhere way back in his own memory he recalled the significance of driving your own car to the junior prom. He postponed the start of the two-week penalty until the day after the dance.

Bob bent the rule, a rule that he himself had made. But by being flexible he established something greater than fear and power—love and respect.

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True dads must also be an ideal for children to look up to. In a society where drugs sometimes have become a _65521179_man_holding_new-born_baby-splsubstitute for character, where some politicians seem to be bought and sold on a daily basis, and where a father’s role in the family has been eroded, children need, more than ever, a solid example of male virtue and honor. A father whose example is consistent with the precepts he teaches can do more to influence the lives of youngsters than almost any other factor.

To a boy, a dad should be a goal, a potential achievement. And to a girl, a dad should be the hope of things to come, the model for a future dad for her own children.

It’s not easy to be a dad. It requires the dedication and fortitude of an army general and the patience of a saint. You’ll find dads splashing around in the baby pool at the city park, throwing a dollar’s worth of Ping Pong balls to win a twenty-five cent goldfish at the carnival, and poised on hard chairs at piano recitals. You will even discover them changing a diaper, or telling soothing stories during a midnight thunderstorm.

And when the chips are down, you’ll see them with an arm around the hunched shoulders of a boy who sat out the whole game on the bench, or sitting in the ice cream parlor over chocolate sundaes with a girl just a little too young to accept a date to the school dance.

Whatever the price, there is no glory, no distinction, no award that will ever dethrone the title of Dad. When a man becomes a dad, he has already received one of the highest honors bestowed on man.

 

 

 

 

Let Me Share The Following  by Scott Greer

Reasons I Love Being A Dad. . .

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I love loving their mother and learning to love her more day after day, year after year.

I love the home movies I experience. The live ones. The in house “reality shows” if you please. Kids raggin’ on each other, telling mom and dad stories one more time, hugs at the door, serious discussions begun spontaneously, phone calls to say “Hi, I love you, ” and small hands pressed on a glass door to see the wonder of all wonders: the neighbor’s black cat.

I love happy birthday songs: songs sung and received in love.

I love watching my kids love their kids.

I love the smiles of children and grandchildren.

CB003629I love good memories, family pictures on the walls, and cards from “Father’s Days past. “

I love the never ending pilgrimage of learning, growing and developing with my children.

I love helping when I can and hurting when I can’t. No, I don’t enjoy the pain. It’s the honor of trying to help because “I’m a dad” that I enjoy

I love hearing “Mamma” sing songs to her grandchildren or read to them. I love sensing her joy as she interacts with them and relates to me one more among many, scenes in the stories of their lives.

I love being called “Pap. “

I love sharing the lives of the kids with their mother and sharing their mother as she walks with them during each phase of the varied journeys of their lives.

I love watching the joy in the eyes of my wife as she talks on the phone with her children. (A *very* frequent event in our home I might add!)

I love giving the grandkids back to my kids just about the moment I think I’m going under (or moments thereafter!).

I love hearing the laughter of family in the other room: always, always a very special delight!

I love hearing my wife pray for the family she loves so dearly and serves so faithfully.

I love being a friend as well as being a dad.

I love being a father-in-law and being friends before the term “father in law” becomes a reality.

I love memories of my dad loving me.

3283266057_d472c57859_zJust think of the changes there have been for parents  over the last 100  years. History tells us that fathers, whatever their stations in life, were not in the past involved with their newborn infants. The picture of the father pacing the floor – well away from the mother in labor – was a common one. The new baby, neatly wrapped up, was shown to him, and out came the cigars or beer. The baby was then returned to the women to be cared for.
The children as they grew up were very much ‘women’s work’ and even in the thirties or forties people marveled at the father who took time to have a game with his child or showed a son how some piece of machinery worked. Dads could be there for a bit of rough and tumble, but anything bordering on feelings or emotions or physical care was strictly taboo This division of childcare continued until the women’s movement began to take hold and, in one way or another, to filter into different areas of family life. But as women – many of whom would have been astounded to be thought of as Feminist – began to view their life differently, then the men were necessarily affected, and changes came about. Even if not into the ‘bra burning’ rebelliousness of the sixties, many women did begin to shift their opinions about what dad should or shouldn’t do with the kids. Childcare was never to be seen in the same way again.

    • thumbnail.aspxWith two caring parents there is not one right way and one wrong way, but two different ways.
    • How you act when you are with your children teaches them how to act when they grow up.
    • Share your ideas about parenting with your children’s mother if possible. Listen to her ideas.
    • Fathers can show their sons how to grow up to be loving and caring and able to get on well with others.
    • Girls and boys both need time with their fathers.
    • Show your children that men can be gentle in a tough world.
    • Fathers have an important role in teaching their children that it is all right for men to cry or to ask for help.
    • When fathers are involved in daily care of their babies it builds special bonds that are important to children.
    • As they get older children need to know that you like them, even if they choose different ways of doing things from you.
    • Even if you don’t see your children a lot, you can still build happy memories in the time you have with them.
    • Children need love – love to children means time and attention.

 

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This is a guest post from Leo Babauta of  Zen Habits  a father of six children.

Being a father can be a wonderful thing, once you get past all the gross stuff, all the stressful events, the loss of privacy, and the bewildering numbers of ways you can screw it up.

But other than those few things, fatherhood is wonderful.

Every dad has fears that he won’t be a great dad, that he’ll mess up, that he’ll be a failure. It comes with the job.

Unfortunately, what doesn’t come with the job is a simple set of instructions. As guys, we often will skip the manual, figuring we can wing it but when things go wrong, it’s nice to have that manual to go back to. Fatherhood needs that manual.

thumbnail.aspxAnd while, as the father of six children, you might say that I’m qualified to write such a manual, it’s not true — I’m winging it like everyone else. However, I’ve been a father for more than 15 years, and with six kids I’ve learned a lot about what works and what doesn’t, what’s important and what you can safely ignore (unlike that odd grating sound coming from your engine).

What follows are the fatherhood tips I wish they’d passed out to me upon the delivery of my first child. It would have helped a ton. I hope they’ll help you become an even more awesome dad than you already are — feel free to refer back to them as a cheat sheet, anytime you need some help.

 

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The Awesome Dad Cheat Sheet……18 Fatherhood tips They Should’ve Handed Out At The Delivery Room

 

  1. Cherish your time with them. One thing that will amaze you is how quickly the years will fly. My oldest daughter is 15, which means I have three short years with her before she leaves the nest. That’s not enough time! The time you have with them is short and precious — make the most of it. Spend as much time as you can with them, and make it quality, loving time. Try to be present as much as possible while you’re with them too — don’t let your mind drift away, as they can sense that.
  2. thumbnail.aspxIt gets easier. Others may have different experiences, but I’ve always found the first couple of months the most difficult, when the baby is brand new and wants to feed at all hours of the night and you often have sleepless nights and walk around all day like zombies. It gets easier, as they get a regular sleeping pattern. The first couple of years are also a lot more demanding than later years, and as they hit middle school they become almost functioning, independent adults. It gets easier, trust me.
  3. Don’t look at anything as “mom” duties — share responsibilities. While there are a lot of good things from our grandparents’ day that we should bring back, the traditional dad/mom split of parenting duties isn’t one of them. Some men still look at certain duties as “mom” duties, but don’t be one of those dads. Get involved in everything, and share the load with your baby mama. Changing diapers, giving baths, getting them dressed, even feeding them (you can give them breast milk in a bottle).
  4. Love conquers all. This one sounds corny, but it should be at the center of your dad operating philosophy: above all, show your children love. When you’re upset, instead of yelling, show them love. When they are thumbnail.aspxupset, show them love. When they least expect it, show them love. Everything else is just details.
  5. Kids like making decisions. While it is easier to be an authoritarian parent, what you’re teaching your child is to submit to orders no matter what. Instead, teach your child to make decisions, and he’ll grow up much more capable — and happier. Kids like freedom and decisions, just like any other human beings. Your job is to allow them to make decisions, but within the parameters that you set. Give them a choice between two healthy breakfasts, for example, rather than allowing them to eat a bowl of sugar if they choose to.
  6. A little patience goes a long way. As a parent, I know as well as anyone how easy it is to lose your patience and temper. However, allowing yourself to react in anger or frustration is not the best thing for your child, and you must remember that. That means you need to take a deep breath, or a walk, when you start to lose your patience. Practice patience with your child and your relationship, and your child, will benefit over the long run.
  7. Sense of humor required. There will be times when your child does something that might make you blow your lid — writing in crayon all over the walls is a good one, as is dumping some kind of liquid on your couch, or sneaking out and taking your car to meet up with friends. While you need to teach your child not to do these things, it’s better to just laugh at the humor in the situation. I’ve learned to do this more often, and it helps me keep my sanity.
  8. Read to them, often. Whether you’re a reader or not, reading to your children (from the time they’re babies onward) is crucial. It gets them in the habit of reading, and prepares them for a lifetime of learning. It gives you some special time together, and become a tradition your child will cherish. I read with all my children, from my 2-year-old and my 15-year-old, and love every word we read together.
  9. boy_dad_fixDon’t be the absent dad. The biggest mistake that dads make are not being there for their children. Always, always set aside time each day and each week for your children. Don’t let anything violate this sacred time. And at those big moments in your child’s life — a soccer game, a music recital, a science fair — do you very best to be there. It means the world.
  10. Let them play. Kids really develop through playing — and while it might seem obvious, you should allow them as much free play as possible. That’s aside from TV and video games (see below), aside from reading, aside from anything structured or educational. Just let them play, and make things up, and have fun.
  11. Spark their imagination. Free play, mentioned above, is the best way to develop the imagination, but sometimes you can provide a little spark. Play with your kids, creating forts, dressing up as ninjas, role playing, imagining you’re explorers or characters in a movie or book … the possibilities are endless, and you’ll have as much fun as they will.
  12. Limit TV and video games. I’m not saying you have to be Amish or anything, but too much of this type of entertainment keeps them from doing more imaginative playing, from reading, from getting outside to exercise. I recommend an hour a day of “media time”, but you can find the amount that works for you and your family.dad
  13. Learn the “firm no”. While I’m all for giving kids the freedom to choose, and for free play, and lots of other freedoms, there should be limits. Parents who don’t set boundaries are going to have children with behavior problems, who have problems when they grow up. And if it’s not good to always say “yes”, it’s also not good for the child to say “no” at first … and then cave in when they throw a temper tantrum or beg and plead. Teach them that your “no” is firm, but only say “no” when you really feel that it’s a boundary you need to set.
  14. Model good behavior. It’s one thing to tell you child what she should do, but to say one thing and do another just ruins the message. In fact, the real lesson your child will learn is what you do. Your child is always watching you, to learn appropriate behavior. Excessive drinking or smoking or drug use by parents, for example, will become ingrained in the child’s head. Bad manners, inconsiderate behavior, sloppy habits, anger and a negative attitude, laziness and greed … all these behaviors will rub off on your child. Instead, model the behavior you’d like your child to learn.
  15. thumbnail.aspxTreat their mother with respect, always. Some fathers can be abusive toward their spouse, and that will lead to a cycle of abuse when the child grows up. But beyond physical or verbal abuse, there’s the milder sin against the child’s mother: disrespectful behavior. If you treat your child’s mother with disrespect, your child will not only learn that behavior, but grow up with insecurities and other emotional problems. Treat your child’s mother with respect at all times.
  16. Let them be themselves. Many parents try to mold their child into the person they want their child to be … even if the child’s personality doesn’t fit that mold. Instead, instill good behaviors and values in your child, but give your child freedom to be himself. Children, like all humans, have quirks and different personalities. Let those personalities flourish. Love your child for who he is, not who you want him to be.
  17. Teach them independence. From an early age, teach your children to do things for themselves, gradually letting them be more independent as they grow older. While it may seem difficult and time-consuming to teach your child to do something that you could do much faster yourself, it’s worth it in the long run, for the child’s self-confidence and also in terms of how much you have to do. For example, my kids know how to wash their own dishes, help clean the house, clean their rooms, fold and put away laundry, shower, groom and dress themselves, and much more — saving a lot of time and work for me. Even my 2-year-old knows how to pick things up when she’s told to do so.
  18. Stand together with mom. It’s no good to have one parent say one thing, just to have the other contradict that parent. Instead, you and mom should be working together as a parenting team, and should stand by each other’s decisions. That said, it’s important that you talk out these decisions beforehand, so that you don’t end up having to support a decision you strongly disagree with.

 

 

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What was the most memorable moment you have of your father? As you sit  pondering the issue, think about  how does one go about picking out the most memorable moment out of so many that have gone before? Would the most memorable one be that one instance that is difficult to erase from one’s memory bank? The one some one one can freeze in a memory bubble, and take it out and view it every time one thinks of his or her father?

Is it recalling the first time this most important man in one’s life held you, tickled you, tucked you in, or gave you a welcoming smile after returning home from that first day of school?

Most kids  wish their fathers knew more   about them: their Challenges, their Emotions, their Lives. With that feedback, what follows are the ten things that teenagers with their fathers knew about teenagers.

1.29352pcn-selena56-thumb “I am not a child anymore.” Almost more than anything, teens want respect for their status as maturing young adults. Continuing to be treated as a child feels demeaning. Fathers recognize, however, that teens come in varying stages of maturity, and it is important to tailor your reactions to your teen’s level. As they reach early teen-hood, try to be aware of their situation and work at treating them a little more at an adult level.

2. “I act like I’m ready to be an adult, but I am scared to death of becoming one.” Whether or not your teen is ready to be treated like an adult, he or she is typically overwhelmed with that impending responsibility. Recognize that for all the bravado a teenager can muster, there is significant fear of the unknown. Dads who are able to blend a little respect with a little sensitivity for their situation can be a great resource for their teens.

3. “Friends are becoming more important to me.” Part of the transition process through which teens progress is moving from dependence on parents to independence. It is a process that we support and are excited about as fathers—after all, we want our children to become responsible, independent adults at some point. Part of that process involves a gradual separation from parents to others, including friends. This is natural, expected and appropriate. So don’t be too concerned or get hurt feelings when your teens would rather “hang out” with friends than stay home and play games with the family.

4. “I question lots of things that I didn’t used to question.” A big part of the maturation process is learning to think and feel for one’s self. Teens who were very obedient children may start questioning why they do things that you tell them to do. They may question your judgment. They may question basic beliefs and values that your family has embraced. This questioning process is healthy and normal. Try to stay available to help them through some of that questioning process if the opportunity presents itself.

5. “My hormones are doing weird things to me, and I can’t tell you why. We have noticed with our sons that when they become teens, they become short-tempered and tend to raise their voices a lot, especially when they are under stress. They may start feeling uncomfortable around friends of the opposite sex, even when they have been friends for years. They may want posters on the wall of which you do not approve. But mostly, they just feel—they don’t necessarily understand why. Recognize that hormones may be at the root of some uncomfortable teenage behaviors. However, don’t let them use it as an excuse. Teach them that even though it is hard, hormones and “flash points” can be controlled.

6. “I hate ‘THE LOOK.” Moms and dads develop over time what teenagers know as THE LOOK. This may be expressed in il_fullxfull.269595596a stare, glare or grimace that lets them know they are in trouble. Keeping the lines of communication open can minimize the times you use THE LOOK and can help them identify other ways of knowing that they are causing you stress.

7. “Sometimes, I just need to be alone. Teens have a tendency to withdraw a little while they are figuring out their world. They may be pretty chatty with their friends, but may retreat into their own space when at home. This tendency is also natural and for the most part should not be alarming. If it becomes extreme, then you should be concerned.

8. “Sometimes, I just want you to listen.” Dads often tend to want to be problem-solvers and jump right into a conversation with advice. Resist that temptation and try from time to time to just listen. Many times conversations between parents and teenagers is a chance for a teen to “work it out on their own” with you listening in. Give them that chance to learn to deal with life’s issues rationally and reasonably without you jumping in to solve the issues.

9familyLLS11. “I need you to be consistent.” While teens often rebel at parental authority, they expect and feel most comfortable when parents stick by rule and behave consistently. Don’t constantly change curfews—have a rule and stick with it. The consistency will help give your teen something to rely on—an anchor in the storm of life.

10. “Walk your talk.” Teens get frustrated when parents say one thing and do another. Keep your commitments—they would rather have no promise than a broken one. If we have a family rule about television or video games, mom and dad should live by the rule as well. Set a good example and keep your commitments, and your teen will have greater respect for you.

~Any man can be a father.  It takes someone special to be a dad.  ~

 

 

Thank you Dad for all the memories, but most of all, thank you for being there.

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