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For My Review For Loveivy  I Received A Beautiful Children And Teens 14K Yellow Gold 4mm CZ 4-Prong Screw Back Earrings.

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These Earrings Features a 4mm Sparkling Cubic Zirconia in a 4-Prong 14k Yellow Gold Setting.
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The Earrings I chose are such High-Quality and my Ganddaughter Adelyn  is so excited to be the model.

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They are easy to get on and have a long secure thread. The  backing completely covers the stud, nothing sharp sticks out the back, and they are very secure.

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Hey Dad…Can I Borrow The Car??

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Isn’t it  amazing how quickly the kids learn to drive a car, yet are unable to understand the lawnmower, snow-blower, or vacuum cleaner:)

Okay, they turn 16 and then we are  compelled to let them drive or else they’ll keep on making us drive them around the town.  Having a teenager is tough,  they’re eager, excited and they certainly don’t want their parents getting in their way but having a teenage driver is a whole different scenario. Statistics show that drivers below 24 years old are 4x more likely to die than older drivers. It is due to inexperienced and recklessness which comes from being overconfident.

teen-driving3.s600x600It’s probably the worst time for parents and teenager to bond because the teens are at the age where they want nothing to do with their parents and parents can be going through a midlife crisis. But driving is something most everyone has to do and most everyone wants to do. And what better person to teach your child than you?

Remember what it was like to start driving a car? It was hard to keep the car in the lines and it was hard to keep the speed just right. It was hard to read the road signs and keep the car on the road until you got use to it. With experience you got better and hopefully you are a careful and safe driver today with the ability to have patience to teach someone else how to drive. Remember, your teen doesn’t know what they don’t know . They may have been sitting beside you in the front seat ‘watching’ you drive for years but if they are like my teens, chances are they’ve actually been reading, texting, listening to their iPod or pretending to be asleep so you won’t ask them awkward questions. Teaching your kid to drive has to be one of the biggest testers of trust there is.

This isn’t about the nuts and bolts of teaching parallel parking or 3 Point Turns.  It’s about an approach to teaching your teen to drive that will ensure you still have a working relationship at the end of it!

Let’s talk about some Safe Driving Tips……   Above all keep your cool and your patience when teaching your 6a00e551eea4f588340148c6c3653b970c-500wichild how to drive. Nothing is accomplished by scaring the child they are probably scared enough.

The following are some things you should discuss with your teen before he gets behind the wheel of a car. While you can’t prevent all accidents, letting your teen know of these risks can greatly reduce the chance that he will be the cause of one:

Tip Number One: Congratulate your teen. They’re fifteen!

Make a big deal out of being able to drive, becoming an adult. Most teenagers act like children because they’re treated that way. They can’t do this, they can’t do that. But driving is something that will be coming up in the next year and they will have to learn. It’s part of growing up and being an adult.

Tip Number Two: Get them the test books on their birthday.

They need materials. Don’t leave it to them to go to the store or the DMV to get books. Let them know you’ve been thinking about them. Let them know that you really care and want them to really have this in their lives. A teenager can sometimes feel that their parents are so caught up in work and significant others that they are forgotten about. But giving them a driving book on their birthday lets them know that realize they are becoming adults as much as they do.

photo7-e1320943418412-1024x764Tip Number Four: Ask your teen directly when they want you to take them out driving.

Don’t force yourself on them but let them know that it is your responsibility to help them drive well. You want them to succeed. Once you’ve told them what days you’re free, set up a time and a place to go over things. Being active about your teen learning to drive lets them know that all your talk isn’t just talk.

Tip Number Five: Set up a schedule for driving lessons.

Some schools have driving lessons but if they don’t or if your teen wants to take them from you, set up a good schedule. What happens sometimes is that after the first time out, the teen gets bored or the parent gets frustrated and they never make any other plan to go out driving. So set up a weekly or bi-weekly schedule of driving lessons.

Tip Number Six: Let them go at their own pace.

When scheduling, let them decide how many times a month you study or have driving lessons. And when learning, let them learn at their own pace, asking questions. Patience is word when teaching someone anything. Whether your child has to have repetitive lessons because that’s how they learn or they have learning problems, you should be there to help no matter what.

Tip Number Seven: From test questions to actually driving, give them the power.

This not only helps them feel more like an adult but it helps you to realize that your kids are actually growing up. When they mess up, let them deal with figuring out the problem. Let them find the answers themselves. This is one of the first times in a parent’s life when they realize they have to let go. The word here is help, not control.

Tip Number Eight: Encourage them.

This is also a time that teens can feel insecure about screwing up on both the verbal and driving tests. Tell them they’ve got plenty of chances but also tell them they will do great. Let them know if they’ve done a great job.

Being a parent is harder than it looks. Every moment counts. And when they come out of that DV with a certificate in hand, the best feeling is knowing that you helped them to accomplish this goal.
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What are some other things kids should do while driving……

  • woman-texting-driving-shutterstockTurn cell phones off. Talking and texting on cell phones while driving is a huge distraction. But teens love their cell phones, and likely believe they are more than capable of multitasking while driving. A 2005 survey by the Allstate Foundation found that more than half of teens use their cell phones while driving. Depending on the state you live in, texting or talking on a cell phone may be illegal. Regardless, let your teens know the dangers of cell phone (and other distracting behaviors) in cars, and instruct them to keep their cell phones off or on vibrate so that they are less tempted to use them. To decrease the risk of your teen being tempted, outfit their car with a hands-free device so they don’t think twice about reaching down to answer their phone.
  • Keep your eyes on the road. This sounds obvious, but most teens believe they can do it all — even if that means taking their eyes of the road to do it. Let them know how distracting (and potentially dangerous) it can be to eat while driving, put on makeup, change the radio stations or look at passengers. Accidents happen in a split second, and inattentive drivers are the cause of 80 percent of crashes.
  • Maintain a safe distance. Teens are more likely than other drivers to tailgate. Newer drivers may not quite understand the importance of staying a safe distance away from the car in front of them. When teaching them how to drive, show your teens what represents a safe distance, and have them practice when you are in the car. Once they get a feel for it, it will become second nature while driving.
  • Always wear a seat belt. Many fatalities that result from car accidents are due to drivers and passengers not wearing seat belts. Stress the importance of seat belt use to your teens, whether they are driving or just going along for the ride. “[Teens] don’t understand how much a seat belt is going to save their lives, but seat belt use has been a huge factor in just about every fatal teen accident.
  • Don’t drink and drive. This one should go without saying, but, given the statistics above, clearly many teens disregard even this blatant law. Inform your teens of the dangers of drunk driving — both the potential risk of fatalities and the legal ramifications of driving while intoxicated. Let them know that, if they feel like they are too drunk to drive, they can call you for a ride without getting in trouble. While you may not approve of your teens’ underage drinking, keep in mind that it’s better to make sure they get home safely than have them be too worried about getting in trouble to call you.

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The Statistics are Alarming

It may be tempting for parents to allow their newly licensed teens to drive themselves to their friends’ houses or pick up a few things at the grocery. After all, they are actually eager to do the chores parents have grumbled about for years. But before they sit back and leave the driving to their kids, parents need to be aware of some disturbing statistics regarding teen drivers.

kids.cars.cnnAccording to the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety, crashes are the leading cause of death among American teens, accounting for more than one-third of all deaths of 16- to 18-year-olds. This should be reason enough for parents to take their teens’ driving very seriously and to insist that their teens do, too.

  • Teen drivers have the highest crash risk of any age group.
  • Compared with crashes of older drivers, those of 16 year-olds more often involve driver error.
  • More of 16-year-olds’ fatal crashes involve only the teen’s vehicle.
  • Sixteen year-olds’ fatal crashes are more likely to occur when other teenagers are in the car. The risk increases with every additional passenger.
  • Per mile driven, the nighttime fatal crash rate for 16-year-olds is about twice as high as during the day.
  • Teenagers generally are less likely than adults to use safety belts.Obviously teens need to drive to get experience, but that doesn’t mean they should have unlimited access to the car or be allowed to ferry friends around day and night the minute they get their licenses.
  • Parents can make this time as safe as possible by accompanying them on their excursions, insisting on seat belt use, and allowing brand new drivers to use the car only during the day at first. As teens get more practice hours under their belts, parents can gradually allow them more freedom.
  • As the statistics show, it takes more than a license to be a good driver — it also takes patience and practice, and good parenting.Without even thinking about it, we parents are teaching our children how to drive from the first time we strap them into a car seat. During these early years, our young passengers are learning how it “feels” to be in a car; driving in a residential area, on a freeway, in a parking lot; dealing with traffic, being in a hurry, driving when tired, angry or distracted.
  • Happy young friends So We have Taken this Task to Teach Our kids How to Drive But How Do We Measure Up As a Driver…… Are you a tailgater? If your little girl has always seen the car in front of her just three feet from your bumper when going 60 mph on the freeway, this distance will seem “normal” to her. Chances are she will do the same when she gets behind the wheel, only without the 15, 20 or 30 or more years of experience and trained reflex that you have to help you avoid an accident.
  • Do you routinely speed, weave in and out of traffic or cut people off when in a hurry? Most likely, your teenaged son, additionally fueled by raging hormones, loud music and his newly endowed transportation autonomy, will take these patterns to the next level.
  • If you’re angry or stressed, do you transfer those feelings to the road, criticizing other drivers, cursing them for their driving, or even attempting to intimidate or “punish” them with your driving when they offend you? This behavior, too, will seem “normal” to your children, and when that girlfriend or boyfriend rejects them, or they don’t make the team, your young, inexperienced driver will take their powerful and confused emotions and your poor example with them behind the wheel of a car.
  • Nearly all of us have been guilty of at least some if not all of these bad driving behaviors at one time or another. But, as parents, it’s important to remember that you are no longer alone in your car. You are being watched. There is truly no greater way to teach your children to become safe, courteous drivers than to model that behavior yourself.
  • If you are aware of poor or unsafe driving habits or attitudes that you possess – habits or attitudes that you would not want your children to emulate – begin right now to correct them. Even talk about them with your kids. Let them help you become a better, safer and more courteous driver so that they, too, can become better, safer more courteous drivers one day as well.
  • Another important piece as we teach our kids to drive are the teenage driving laws………..
  • Every state has toughened the regulations for who can drive, when and where. Some of these laws teen-driverrestrict 16-year-olds to driving with an adult for at least 6 months. Others forbid 16- and 17-year-olds from carrying passengers under 21, outside immediate family, for their first year on the road.
  • Seat belt use is mandatory in many states for drivers under the age of 18, even if a general seat belt law is not in effect.
  • Several states now require a minimum number of hours spent in traffic schools or drivers education programs before a teen can apply for a driver’s license.
  • Most states have enacted curfews for drivers under 18, typically between the hours of 1AM and 6AM.
  • One third of US states ban teens from using cell phones while they drive.
  • To find out which laws apply in your state, check the Web site of your state’s department of motor vehicles. If the laws seem restrictive, the penalities for breaking them are worse.
  • Some states have imposed fines as high as $1,000 for teen offenders. Teens may also lose their provisional driver’s licenses and have to complete a driver education course and pay a reinstatement fee to get the license back.
  • If you are nervous about this you can always enroll your child in driver’s ed classes if possible. He or she will probably get better instruction than you could offer, and the teacher will probably be more patient than you. Still, you can’t avoid riding with your son or daughter entirely. Don’t be surprised if both you and your child are nervous. Just remember, you were once a beginning driver yourself.
  • We have all seen the scenario of parents attending the funerals of their children, yet the problem continues all over the United States. I do not wish to single out any certain age group, as drinking and driving and fatal accidents have been caused by many an adult. All age groups are affected. However, it disturbs me that, with graduation and prom season approaching, our nation’s youth will be attending parties where alcohol is being served.
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    I went to a party, Mom,
    I remembered what you said.
    You told me not to drink, Mom,
    So I drank soda instead.

    277192-9815-23I really felt proud inside, Mom,
    The way you said I would.
    I didn’t drink and drive, Mom,
    Even though the others said I should.

    I know I did the right thing, Mom,
    I know you are always right.
    Now the party is finally ending, Mom,
    As everyone is driving out of sight.

    As I got into my car, Mom,
    I knew I’d get home in one piece.
    Because of the way you raised me,
    So responsible and sweet.

    I started to drive away, Mom,
    But as I pulled out into the road,
    The other car didn’t see me, Mom,
    And hit me like a load.

    As I lay there on the pavement, Mom,
    I hear the policeman say,
    “The other guy is drunk,” Mom,
    And now I’m the one who will pay.

    I’m lying here dying, Mom…
    I wish you’d get here soon.
    How could this happen to me, Mom?
    My life just burst like a balloon.

    There is blood all around me, Mom,
    And most of it is mine.
    I hear the medic say, Mom,
    I’ll die in a short time.

    I just wanted to tell you, Mom,
    I swear I didn’t drink.
    It was the others, Mom.
    The others didn’t think.

    He was probably at the same party as I.
    The only difference is, he drank
    And I will die.

    car-wreck-1024x766Why do people drink, Mom?
    It can ruin your whole life.
    I’m feeling sharp pains now.
    Pains just like a knife.

    The guy who hit me is walking, Mom,
    And I don’t think it’s fair.
    I’m lying here dying
    And all he can do is stare.

    Tell my brother not to cry, Mom.
    Tell Daddy to be brave.
    And when I go to heaven, Mom,
    Put “Daddy’s Girl” on my grave.

    Someone should have told him, Mom,
    Not to drink and drive.
    If only they had told him, Mom,
    I would still be alive.

    My breath is getting shorter, Mom.
    I’m becoming very scared.
    Please don’t cry for me, Mom.
    When I needed you,
    you were always there.

    I have one last question, Mom.
    Before I say good bye.
    I didn’t drink and drive,
    So why am I the one to die?

     

     

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The Dating Game…..

Remember sitting by the phone, waiting for a boy to call and ask for a date? Then waiting for him to come to the house to pick you up? Well, get over it-dating is different now.

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“Even the concept of dating is outdated,”No one ever said dating was easy.

First dates are awkward, second dates are expectant and the dates that follow that — during which two people really start getting down to the business of getting to know each other — present hundreds, if not thousands, of opportunities for missteps, faux  blunders and mistakes.

What as parents  should we  do? How far should we go in our children’s  dating life, and what kind of rules should we  enforce? Parents all have differing opinions on this, but I think everyone can agree that we should never hide our children away from the world, and that dating is something that we all have to in some respects, embrace.

How young is too young? Dr. Phil says that teenagers, especially younger pre-teens, don’t need to have boyfriends and girlfriends. Still, he knows that young relationships do form. Here is his advice for parents:

  • Teenagers shouldn’t have serious dating relationships. No 14-year-old needs to have an intense boyfriend or girlfriend. Encourage group dates supervised by an adult.
  • Don’t allow your teenager to close the bedroom door when someone of the opposite sex is over. This should be a non-negotiable rule.
  • Talk with your teenager. The more conversations you have, the less likely he/she will be to get into trouble. If you’ve always kept the door open for discussions, your child will be more likely to come to you with questions or problems.
  • If you’re too oppressive and restrictive, you are guaranteeing rebellion. Use logic and reason when creating rules for your teenager.
  • Don’t just forbid certain activities, explain why you forbid them. Doing this will help your teenager understand that you’re not merely trying to be bossy or imposing arbitrary rules.
  • As a parent, it’s your job to teach your teenager the importance of self-worth. Teenagers who value themselves as they are won’t need to “find themselves” in other people

Establish boundaries when you children start dating. Discussing in advance dating limits is really helpful. I mentioned that in our family growing up, and for our children as well, we set an age limit of  16 for dating.

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Our kids did a lot of “hanging out” with mixed gender groups before and after 16, but single dates waited until then. We chose 16 because we had seen several studies that suggested that if kids waited until 16 to pair off, they were far less likely to have sex, marry and drop out of school than they were if dating started earlier.

It’s only natural to have the urge to lock your teenage daughter in her room until she’s 30. Realistically, though, you’re going to have to loosen the reins and let her have fun-and that includes going on a date or two.

But if you’re uncomfortable with her going on a one-on-one date, then enforce a group-only policy. Tell her it’s O.K. to hit the movies with a mix of guys and girls, but not acceptable to engage in anything more intimate. Promise her that once you get to know the special guy a bit better, you may ease up and let her go out alone.
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So What Are Dating Rights?
Just like driving a car, going to school or playing a sport, dating someone comes with both rights and responsibilities.But first, look at them carefully and ask yourself if you are violating someone else’s rights – or if someone is violating yours. Are you fulfilling your responsibilities? Are you respecting your rights and the rights of your date?

Your rights…

I have the right to:

  1. To be treated with respect always
  2. To my own body, thoughts, opinions, and property
  3. To choose and keep my friends
  4. To change my mind – at any time
  5. To not be abused – physically, emotionally or sexually
  6. To leave a relationship
  7. To say no
  8. To be treated as an equal
  9. To disagree
  10. To live without fear and confusion from my boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s anger

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Your Responsibilities

I have the responsibility:

      1. To not threaten to harm myself or another
      2. To encourage my girlfriend or boyfriend to pursue their dreams
      3. To support my girlfriend or boyfriend emotionally
      4. To communicate, not manipulate
      5. To not humiliate or demean my girlfriend or boyfriend
      6. To refuse to abuse – physically, emotionally or sexually
      7. To take care of myself
      8. To allow my boyfriend or girlfriend to maintain their individuality
      9. To respect myself and my girlfriend or boyfriend
      10. To be honest with each other

I found these Ten Simple Rules to Date My Daughter by W.Bruce Cameron.  Let me share them with you…..

Whenever boys come over to date my daughter, I do my best to give them the impression that if they were looking for fun, they should have picked some other girl. My motto: wilt ‘em in the living room and they’ll stay wilted all night. To assist their understanding, I have come up with some basic rules, which I have carved into two stone tablets on display in my living room.

Rule One: If you pull into my driveway and honk you’d better be delivering a package, because you’re sure as heck not picking anything up.

Rule Two: You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter’s body, I will remove them.

 

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Rule Three: I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don’t take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object.

However, In order to assure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric staple gun and fasten your trousers securely in place around your waist.

Rule Four: I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing a “barrier method” of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I WILL kill you.

Rule Five: You may believe that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is “early.”

Rule Six: I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make YOU cry.

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Rule Seven: As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process which can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don’t you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

Rule Eight: The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where parents, policemen, or nuns are not within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than a goose down parka zipped up to her chin. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which feature chain saws are okay.

Rule Nine.. Do not lie to me.  I may appear to be potbellied, balding, middle-age, dimwitted, has-been.  But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless, God of the Universe.  If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and 5 acres behind the house.  DO NOT TRIFLE WITH ME!

Rule Ten...Be Afraid.  Be very Afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a shopper coming in over a sand dune near Baghdad. When my post traumatic stress syndrome starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit the car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car…there is not need for you to come inside.  The camouflaged face at the window is mine.

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My daughter claims it embarrasses her to come downstairs and find me attempting to get her date to recite these eight simple rules from memory. I’d be embarrassed too—-there are only eight of them, for crying out loud!

Their mother says I’m being too hard on the boys. “Don’t you remember being that age?” she challenges.

Of course I remember. Why do you think I came up with the Ten Simple Rules?

Teenage dating does not have to be something big or scary, and is actually an exciting new adventure for you and your child! Ask your child questions about their date, fun questions, like what they find most attractive about them, or what their favorite hobbies are. 

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Questions that will instill a sense of bonding and trust in your teen that you aren’t there to be the parental police unit. Of course, make sure not to take this too far, and let your child know that you’re still the parent and still in control.

By striking this perfect balance, you are ensuring that your child will have the safe and enjoyable dating experience growing up that we all should be able to look back fondly upon.

 

 

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Children and Allowances

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To learn to ride a bike, you need a bike. And to learn to manage money, you need … a little money. By practicing with their own money, children get to try out concepts – saving for a rainy day, prioritizing goals, and delayed gratification – that might otherwise seem abstract or irrelevant.

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Allowances give kids room to make mistakes in a low-risk environment – sort of like learning to drive in an empty parking lot. If your 8-year-old can’t go to the movies with a friend’s family because he burned through all his allowance buying action figures, he may be more likely to plan ahead when he gets next week’s allowance.

First, let’s address the age at which children should begin receiving an allowance. As mentioned before, it is good to get children managing their own money as early as possible. If children have not already begun receiving an allowance by 6 years old, this is a good age to begin.

It is at this time, around first grade, that children begin learning about money in school, and they are excited to apply what they learn.

For instance, a 6 year old who receives a dollar a week can realize that that dollar is equal to 100 pennies, or 10 dimes, or 4 quarters, or 20 nickels; and he will be proud to share this information with his parents.

Most children are going to get the money out of their parents anyway, adds Bodnar, so it is better to teach them to manage their own money than to allow them to nickel and dime you for every little thing they want.

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Our house was pretty cluttered. Children’s toys and clothes lay in piles that seemed to grow taller every day. And I was getting discouraged. The problem became even worse when I began working part-time. Now I had half the time to clean up a full-time mess. One day my friend Lisa and I were discussing my dilemma.

She explained how her family had solved a similar problem. Every week Gloria would pay each of her children an allowance. But instead of simply handing the money over, she provided a way for the children to work for it.

She made a chart listing various chores, the consequences the children would face for chores left undone, and the amount of money that would be deducted from the week’s allowance. At the end of the week, each child would receive the allowance minus any deductions. The idea sounded intriguing, so I decided to try it.

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The next Monday I found three tins—one for each of my children—and plunked two dollars in change into each one. Then I made an allowance chart listing such things as “bedroom straightened,” “toys put away,” and “bed made.” If they didn’t put their toys away, I explained to the children, I would deduct five cents for each toy left out. sm_metal_cans_lg The next day I came home to a sparkling clean house. The day after, a few items lay scattered on the floor and on the kitchen table, so a little bit of money was taken out of the appropriate tins. “You took ten cents!” my oldest daughter exclaimed after counting the money left in her tin.

“What did I forget to do? “Your socks and pajamas were left lying around,” I explained. The next day her room was spotless. We’ve continued the project for some time now.

The children are learning responsibility and are helping me keep the house clean. I’m thrilled when one or more of my daughters receive the whole allowance at the end of the week. And best of all, our home is a more cheerful place to be.

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The goal of giving your child an allowance is not so they can afford that fancy cell phone at the age of ten-years-old. The goal is to teach them money managing skills and discipline in spending their money.

But how can you give your child hard cash, without enabling them to carelessly spend it? The truth is that if you don’t give your kids an allowance until they’re a young adult, they won’t be prepared to deal with it. It’s much better to introduce them to money at a young age – just as you’d want to introduce them to a second language.

After all, isn’t money a language in a sense? You’ll need to make it clear what expenses your child will be responsible for covering with his new allowance. Obviously, costly purchases such as your child’s wardrobe and school supplies should continue to be paid by you.

However, it’s not unreasonable to expect your child to pay for ice cream, Nintendo DS games, and other smaller purchases with his allowance. Also, if your child has scout dues to pay or drama club dues, he should probably cover that with his allowance.

The cost of uniforms, piano lessons, and anything relating to your child’s education (such as field

trip fees) should be covered by you.

Many factors go into fixing an allowance. The four main ones are listed below…..

  • Your child’s age. Obviously, the older your child, the bigger the allowance (up to a certain point, at which your child may become too old for an allowance).
  • Your family income. Only you know how much your family can afford to allocate to allowances.
  • Where you live. Maybe keeping up with the Jonese’s isn’t high on your list of priorities and you frequently tell your child, “I don’t care that Jimmy Jones has this or does that.” But, realistically, the neighborhood you live in can certainly influence how much allowance you give your child. What your child’s best friend receives may not be a deciding factor, but it’s a factor nonetheless.
  • What the allowance is supposed to cover. If you expect your teenager to buy all his own clothing from his allowance, then the dollars paid to him each week must be sufficient to allow for this extensive purchase. If you supplement an allowance with spending money, then a less generous allowance may be in order.

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DLTK. com has one of the neatest online generators for kid chore charts I’ve found. Simply fill-in the information and a chart is generated. You can choose from a large array of fun top graphics.

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Be sure to check out this article on some fun and unique ideas for chore and potty-training charts.

      • So what should chores for kids look like
      • A toddler can learn to help put their toys away.
      • The kids take their own plates and cutlery to kitchen.
      • At around 2 to 3 your kids can help to feed their pet
      • They can put laundry in a laundry basket.
      • Our kids loved to help wash up (safe items only)
      • Again they can put toys away.
      • Kids can wash face in the morning
      • They can get dressed usually by this time.
      • At around 4 to 5 your child could
      • Put laundry in laundry basket – get one for each child
      • Feed pet
      • Make their bed in the morning
      • Help wash up
      • Empty wastebaskets into bin with help
      • Dust with a duster (I usually give kids just a dampened duster and not polish)
      • By this age kids can help in the garden watering the plants and possibly weeding with supervision.
      • Kids may like to start their own herb gardens or  themed gardens with your help.

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Do all of the above and then…..

Set the table
Clear the table
Tidy their bedroom and dust it.
Dust
Help to clean out pets in cages or brush dogs
Clean their own teeth
Help to cook dinner
Help to sort the scraps for composting
Make their own sandwich if bread is pre-sliced
Help you to wash out the bath.
Help you check through cupboards and make a shopping
Make cakes and biscuits with your help

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At around 9 and above your child could…..

Do all the above and then

Put away groceries.

Run short errands

Vacuum but you will have to show them how and teach then how to vacuum safely.

Make cakes with help

Fold their own laundry and put away

Empty and clean lunchbox

 

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Then as your child becomes older and more responsible you can add chores as you see fit.

The kids can do above chores for kids and then Strip and remake beds Load and unload dishwasher
Sew on buttons

Walk dog

Prepare an easy meal

Make sandwiches

They could do laundry

Wash the car

Clean windows

Care for younger siblings

Make cakes

Make own lunches and clear away

Wash up

Clean the bathroom

vacuum and dust as necessary

Top 5 tips for giving Allowance  (Thanks Everything MOM)

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  • Determine Allowance Amount…. Vaz-Oxlade says you have to give kids enough money so they can actually work with it, incorporating the lessons you want to teach. “I suggest one dollar per year of age, so a 7-year-old would get $7 a week. 10% or 70¢ goes to sharing. 5% goes to saving… that’s a buck .05, leaving 5.95 for whatever the child is trying to accomplish. Let’s say $2 a week for mad money and the rest towards a planned purchase (planned spending).”
  • Be Consistant…..Walkington says the money has to be given on a consistent basis. Parents need to have a regular schedule for the allowance and stick to it. It could be once a week, every two weeks on payday or once a month, whatever works for you as long as it consistent.
  • If the allowance is not consistent it teaches children that they can’t count on you or on their allowance to plan and save (our money beliefs are learned at a very early age and can set the stage for our financial future).
  • Save, Spend, Give…..Walkington says when it comes to dividing the money into save, spend and give categories try to use piggy banks, jars, separate wallets, or bank accounts to physically allocate the money to each category. It will help children to see where the money is going and how much they have.
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  • Follow the Spending Rules….. Make sure you make your child pays for the things you agreed on and not beg you to buy them a Slurpee or toy with your money if they are supposed to pay for these types of things out of their allowance. Walkington says some kids hate to spend their own money, they would rather save their money and spend yours. So be strict and stick to the rules.
  • Involve the Kids…..Talk about the money and keep the kids involved. Vaz-Oxlade says it becomes more important as children gets older. “When my daughter was about 10 she decided she wanted her money once a month. It was easier to plan. When she was 12 I upped her allowance to include money for clothing and later she negotiated a raise.”
  • Looking for a way to make learning money fun?  A family board game might be the perfect solution. MOney games for kids will help them learn about money management while having a great time.
  • Here are some ideas of games for kids about money.  (From About.com)

Looking for a way to make learning money fun?  A family board game might be the perfect solution. MOney games for kids will help them learn about money management while having a great time.

Here are some ideas of games for kids about money.  (From About.com)

1. Monopoly

Buy and sell properties, build houses and collect rent. Monopoly is a great money game for kids learning how to count money and make decisions. Play the classic Monopoly with paper money or the new Monopoly with Electronic Banking.

2. Game of Life

Make decisions about your career and other life moves in the Game of Life. The decisions you make affect the income you receive and how you spend your money.

3. Payday

In Payday kids learn to have a job, lend money, pay bills and interest, and deal with unexpected expenses.

4. Moneywise Kids

Two different games are included in Moneywise Kids, one for making change and the other for budgeting money. Players must account for food, clothing, and housing in the play option focused on money management.

5. Money Bags

Kids learn how to count change by earning money for various activities in Money Bags. In addition, kids are limited to using certain coins, forcing them to keep finding new ways to count the coins.

6. Easy Money

The original Easy Money game is actually over 70 years old! You roll the dice and move around the board to earn as much money as possible while counting large amounts of money.

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7. Exact Change

Kids use their coins to put together the “exact change” to win the pot of money. It’s a great learning tool for kids learning to count coins and make change.

8. Careers

Kids will decide how to reach success in the Careers board game. As in real life, you must try to figure out what is the best way for you to reach your final goal.

It is a great way for kids to learn the value of not only money, but where other aspects fit in to achieve what you want.  

Allowance Amounts

A difficult question to answer is how much allowance you should pay your children. Though the precise amount depends on your family’s financial situation, the cost of living, and your children’s needs, I can offer a few suggestions.

Children can start to earn a weekly allowance as early as 5 years of age. An increase of $1 per week for each year of your children’s lives is realistic until they reach their mid-teens. At this point, when they begin to drive and date, you can calculate their expenses and establish a reasonable allowance that covers their needs.

I found a place that can help you calculate a child’s allowanceTurn The Page. A final point. The most important financial lesson that children need to learn is that, as the saying goes, money does not grow on trees (at least for most of us). If your children spend their allowances before the next “payday,” do not give or loan them more to tide them over.

An essential part of fiscal responsibility is learning to live within one’s budget. Staying tough in these situations will ensure that your children learn the hard lessons of living within one’s means.

Kids have so little independence these days. An allowance is a wonderful way to give them complete control over something and enable them to make their own decisions. I try very hard not to interfere with my kids’ decisions on what to do with their allowance.

As long as they’re not buying something dangerous or inappropriate for a child, they can do whatever they want with their allowance. They love this independence and they absolutely do not abuse it – on the contrary, they are very responsible with their money and they spend it carefully and wisely.

 

Then the kids are grown up, have to go out and work and they don’t like it. What is important for kids to learn is that no matter how much money they have, earn, win, or inherit, they need to know how to spend it, how to save  it, and how to give it to others in need.

  This is what handling money is about, and this is why we give kids an allowance. Whatever you do, your child will learn valuable lessons from getting an allowance.

The hardest part may have been remembering if I had already paid it or not! I found this wonderful idea about paying your kids allowance…..

This Printable Chore Chart from can help you pay your tween allowances!

Everyone has different methods and goals for how they accomplish this; but I’m sure we all agree it’s important.

 

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Those Teen-Age Years

As we reflect back on our lives, the teenage years come back with the pangs of regretful longing. Time tends to wash away the hurt and confusion of that awkward time.  Dealing with teenagers can be a challenge.  Especially this time and day with new drugs, peer pressure, and sex on the rise.

young-people_tcm15-12493There is an old saying that goes something like this.
“Parenting teenagers is a little like trying to nail gelatin to a tree.”

 Teenage brains do not work properly.  I am pretty sure that there is scientific evidence to support this assertion.

Do you remember back to before you became a parent?  Remember all of those ideas you had? Remember how you thought you were going to be the perfect parent to the perfect baby?

Then you had that baby and realized that you in fact knew nothing.  Remember?

That is exactly what raising teenagers is like.  Except that unlike parenting babies, teenagers point out to you the fact that you know nothing.

 

Parenting teenagers effectively means understanding your role in their life.

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I’m going to put it to you straight, mom or dad. You are not your teen’s best friend.

Someday, as adults, perhaps you and your teen can realize that goal…but while your son or daughter is a teen, you have the awesome responsibility and privilege of raising them. That comes before being their friend. And frankly, it’s way more important. They can get friends anywhere. You are their only mom or dad. Parenting teenagers is tough!

 

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You do not exist to make your teen feel good about themselves. And your teen does not exist to make you feel good about your parenting abilities, either. Your son or daughter is an independent human being working on being able to fly away and live their own life. Your job as their parent is to guide them through the growing process so they can and will fly away.

Let ‘s face it, all of our children will one day reach those dreaded “Teen Years,” but by handling the problem teen correctly from the beginning, you may find these years more rewarding than trying.

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At the same time keep in mind that society is completely different today, than it was when you were sixteen, and a child’s surroundings will always play a major role in who they are. What is acceptable to the world today was in no way acceptable twenty or thirty years ago. If you are to relate and communicate with your child, you must imagine yourself as sixteen in today’s world.

When raising my children I had a special face I made  when people ask me how old my children which  were -17,14,and 6–and they say, “Ah, well, the older two must pretty much look after themselves. “Anyone, with an iota of sense knows that steering children through the teenage years is the most important, hardest-work bit (which is why, by the way, there’s something so insufficiently thought out about maternity leave. Lovely to be with you baby, but no more  important than being there for you teenager: (we need occasional child leave as well). 

I agree that having people disagree with you is annoying, especially if you gave birth to them.  But we are far too quick to jump to the conclusion that our child is “difficult”, “hard work”, “a handful”, and that their acting out is designed to wound us. Most teenagers aren’t difficult at all. They are pains, which is a different thing. They’re just trying stuff out, experimenting, kicking against boundaries in a way that may be exasperating but is hardly much more.

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The three most important people in a teens life are me; myself and I.  Adolescents are the creatures of their own universes and everything else that revolves around them.

It’s  fairly basic, but it cannot be said often enough. Teens want so much to discover who they are and to be accepted.

Teenage is a fundamental stage of life that each human being passes through. Some people face this period of their life strongly and positively, while others face many problems and difficulties. This depends on the environment these young adults live in, their parents, their friends, their living conditions, their education, and many other factors.

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11 RULES FOR RAISING TEENAGERS

1. Your teens don’t want you to be their friends……. What they need is for you to be a reliable responsible role model worthy of their respect, and not some overgrown finger-snapping hipster who wears too tight jeans or T-shirts with slogans advocating the virtues of 100 proof liquor.

2. Don’t debate the teen ever……. If she wants to debate, suggest she sign up for the Debate Club, thank you very much.  If you buy into their teen logic (which is basically illogic, the product of an immature brain and every extreme of emotion known to mankind) your mouth will go dry and your ears and nerves will surely fray. Teens need to know that no means no. Remember when your teen was two years old and he said “no” a lot? Well now it’s your turn, particularly when your teen want to engage in behaviors that are dangerous, or which might negatively affect their future academic, social or job prospects.

3. Don’t buy your teen a car……. If you do, he will total it or wreck it in record time. Guaranteed. The teen should earn the car, or at least a portion of it (and by that I don’t mean one of the tires). You know how you take much better care of an item of clothing you spent a mint on compared to one you bought in a bargain basement? It’s the same thing, only a car can do serious damage.
4. Encourage sports participation…… even if your teen has two left feet. In some sports, two left feet won’t knock him out of the box, so to speak. Sports participation develops perserverence and cheerfully functioning as a team member. You also will know where your child is every day after school (on the field, that is, or at a rival school). Just make sure you root for the right team, okay? Been there, done that.
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5. Let the school know you in a good way………so that school personnel do not dive under the desk when you approach. If you are asked to speak at the school, your teen will feel mighty proud. If you make something for the bake sale, try to make it taste edible and if you can’t see it through, do yourself and your child a favor and buy something at the local bakery or supermarket.
6. Your teen needs some house rules…… else he becomes a sloth and his room begins to seriously resemble a gerbil cage. Some good house rules: no eating outside the kitchen. No visitors to the house unless an adult is present. No name calling or suggesting the parent needs to spend time in a soft padded room.
7. Your teen needs to work……. unless her school and academic demands take up all available time. Why? As stated above, if allowed to vegetate, teens can and will become human sloths. Besides, these are hard times, and looking good and dressing good costs money. Anything that encourages a work ethic and sense of family duty is a good thing.

8. To know your teens’ friends is to know your  teens…... Teens have a secret life, and a parent’s goal is to penetrate the veil of secrecy that is sometimes thicker than the CIA and the KGB combined. If you really want to know what your kid is up to, get to know their friends. How? By being warm and kind, and by asking questions that don’t sound like an interrogation, but which serve that purpose without their knowing it.Teens9. Look at your teen daily and it’s okay to stare……. Notice any changes in appearance, hygiene, mood, etc. Interact meaningfully with your teen daily, and by that I don’t mean asking, “Did you take out the garbage?”10. Know that if your teen gets into hot water…….he may be too embarrassed or afraid of your wrath and disappointment to tell you, even if you have a great relationship with your teen or–think you do.11. Just when you think your teen has learned from his mistake….. he will make another doozy of a mistake. Be prepared for this. Remember: the human brain is not fully formed until age 25. Yikes!

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When parents give orders, children often dig in their heels. One way to stop this happening is to let them know why something is important.

Boundaries are about setting the bottom line or making agreements about what is acceptable and what is not.

Boundaries work far better if they are made and agreed by everyone. When children see the sense of it, or know you’ve taken their opinions into account, they are more motivated to co-operate.

As children grow, most will test the limits – this is quite normal behavior. When they become teenagers you may need to change or amend these boundaries to reflect different or new behaviors and experiences.

When you do this, involve your child so that you can negotiate the new boundaries together.

Too many boundaries can cause resentment and be impossible to police. Work out what is really important to you and what you could let go.

7052549-group-of-young-peopleRules can help you keep your child safe, but as they get older you will need to negotiate and let them take more responsibility for their own safety.

There may be times when your values conflict with the values that your children are learning from other people and the media. This may be when you find yourself negotiating.

Sometimes it’s easy to forget that while being an adult has all sorts of stresses and strains, being a teenager isn’t always that great either. First of all, they are at a difficult age when they’re no longer seen either as children or as adults. Secondly, their hormones are racing, they’re under pressure from friends and the latest trends won’t leave them alone. They may kick up a fuss about being old enough to look after themselves, but the truth is that teenagers don’t always make the right choices and they know this as well as you do.

Setting out some ground rules makes it clear that they’re being looked after and despite the fuss that they make about being in charge of their own lives, the boundaries actually make them feel safe and secure.

Teenagers need to be listened to – sometimes they think you’re not giving them a chance to make their case. If you want teenagers to listen to then you should try to make the effort to listen as well .


Now that I am older ( I really was a teenager once) I appreciate this little post below.  I think my children understand it now! I hope you enjoy it as well!

God Bless The Parents That Drugged Us…

The other day, someone at a store in our town read that a Methamphetamine lab had been found in an old farmhouse in the adjoining county and he asked me a rhetorical question. “Why didn’t we have a drug problem when you and I were growing up?”

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I replied I had a drug problem when I was young:

  I was drug to church on Sunday morning.

I was drug to church for weddings and funerals

. I was drug to family reunions and community socials no matter the weather

. I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to adults I was also drug to the woodshed when I disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a bad report card, did not speak with respect, spoke ill of the teacher or the preacher, or if I didn’t put forth my best effort in everything that was asked of me.

I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out with soap if I uttered a profanity.

I was drug out to pull weeds in mom’s garden and flowerbeds and cockleburs out of dad’s fields.

I was drug to the homes of family, friends and neighbors to help out some poor soul who had no one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline, or chop some firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that I took a single dime as a tip for this kindness, she would have drug me back to the woodshed.

  Those drugs are still in my veins and they affect my behavior in everything I do, say, or think. They are stronger than cocaine, crack, or heroin; and, if today’s children had this kind of drug problem, America would be a better place.

And finally, some morale-boosters (to cut out and keep)

However visionary and brilliant your teen-taming  manoeuvres, there will come a moment (or maybe several dozen) when it all blows up – and you fear all is lost. Chin up,  this is no time to waver; perk up your parenting resolve and remember…

  • Keep your sense of humor – you’ll need it. 
  • Don’t worry about the teenage years – if you do a good job now, teaching right from wrong, teaching them to think for themselves, making them feel secure etc, you’ll be fine. I find having two other ‘adults’ to share life with wonderful.
  • Lock them in the cupboard under the stairs at 13, let out at 18 ready to leave home.
  • My dad reckons the years between 13 and 41 are the worst. I am 41, I should add. 
  • Their rooms were always fairly disgusting while at home, but now the older DCs are at university and in shared accommodation, and I can honestly say their rooms now are really quite nice and tidy! 
  • Whether they are three or 13, babies or teenagers, never forget the mantra: It’s just a phase. This, too, will pass. 
  • Don’t worry – they start to become human around the age of 22.

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I found this posted in the Aspen  Times and I will end on this note….
Dear Editor:

Your recent column “A catcher in the wry” struck a chord with me.  Might be because my husband and I are neck-deep in raising teenagers! My 90-year-old mother chuckles and says, “It’s payback time.”

Thanks, Mom, for sitting on me and pinning my shoulders to the floor to keep me from going to that party in high school after you had grounded me! I simmered down and loved you that much more for doing it!

Hold tight, all you parents of teenagers out there! I have been there and I know what you are going through.

Talk Soon,

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