From Our Thanksgiving Table To Yours

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Thanksgiving is a Labor-Intensive Time Of the Year, and Preparing a Table Full of Delicacies Can Be Very Challenging. Let Me Share With You Some Fun Ideas To Help With Your Thanksgiving Meal.



Turkey Cheese Ball Recipe




Bread Cones….. Maybe make a big one and put fruits and vegetables in it for a Thanksgiving cornucopia. 🙂


 How Long It Takes To Cook A Turkey……Cook it until a thermometer reads 165F when inserted into the fleshiest part of the thigh (where it connects to the drumstick, but don’t let the thermometer touch the bone.)


 Turkey Breast of Wonder (Crock Pot)… A Different Way to cook a Turkey for a Small Crowd and YUMMY!!  In crockpot, add orange juice, whole berry cranberry sauce, onion soup mix, pour over breast, cook 5-6 hours.



Oh-So-Good Creamy Mashed Potatoes



Your Kids Will Love These For Thanksgiving….Chocolate, Vanilla, and Strawberry “Ice Cream” Mashed Potatoes


Baked Sweet Potatoes with Marshmallows — Baked sweet potatoes turn out even sweeter, creamier and more luscious when you add cream cheese, brown sugar and marshmallows to the recipe.




Old Fashioned Pan Gravy



Stuffing Scoops Delicious Stuffing that can be prepared ahead of time!


 Cake Mix Dinner Rolls. Yes you heard right “cake mix”.


 Made with all of my favorite fruits, Greek Yogurt, marshmallows and coconut! This Salad is to DIE for! Perfect for Thanksgiving!


Honey Glazed Baby Carrots – Honey brings in such a pleasant sweetness to these baby carrots in this easy 15-minute side dish For Your Thanksgiving Meal.


 Homemade Cream Corn is the MOST REQUESTED side dish of family dinners! It’s heavenly, fattening, and even more heavenly. You WILL want seconds!



 The BEST Ever Pumpkin Pie Recipe!!


 Caramel Toffee Crunch Cheesecake


 Apple Pie for those people who do not like Pumpkin!


  Homemade Sparkling Apple Cider



















Here Are a Few Fun Ideas For All Your Family and Friends…….

Free Printable Thanksgiving Booklet for your kids. A great way to keep them busy while they are sitting “nicely” at the Thanksgiving table. 🙂











Thanksgiving Candy Bar Wrappers {Free Printable}…..

Print, cut and wrap around a Hershey bar for a perfect gift for teachers, friends and family or dinner party favors.



 FREE Thanksgiving Thankful Tree Printable...Teach Your Family To Be Thankful!


 My kiddos will LOVE doing this to their friends or neighbors! So DARN cute! “Gobble” your friend or neighbor with a bag full of festive Thanksgiving treats!



The year has turned its circle,
The seasons come and go.
The harvest all is gathered in
And chilly north winds blow.
Orchards have shared their treasures,
The fields, their yellow grain,
So open wide the doorway
Thanksgiving comes again!
– Anonymous

 Have a Wonderful Thanksgiving,

Talk Soon,





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A Prescription For Laughter

Every person laughs several times a day for different reasons – after hearing a joke, watching a comedy movie or reading a comic book. Humor is one of the important senses that human being is blessed with. Laughing expresses a feeling of happiness.

Humor and laughter are contagious and they cause a cumulative effect of amusement and joy. In addition, they offer a number of positive health benefits.

Laughing is not just related to facial expressions, but it causes a number of chemical changes within the body. Good hearty laughter helps release enzymes and hormones that are helpful for normal functioning of various organs.


This is due to a connection between laughing and stimulation of brain and different glands. Laughter enhances the body to release natural antihistamines.

It also activates T-cells, a natural anti-biotic produced in the body. It helps boost the immune system and fight infections. It prevents numerous diseases by strengthening the immune system.

(A day is lost if one has not laughed.)

Life isn’t about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself, and one of the best ways to create yourself is through laughter.  Laughter comes in all kinds of packages, obvious ones and the unexpected ones, and a day without laughter is a day wasted.

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 Out of the mouths of babes…

I was testing the children in my Sunday school class to see if they understood the concept of getting to heaven. I asked them, “If I sold my house and my car, had a big garage sale and gave all my money to the church, Would that get me into Heaven?”

“NO!” the children answered.

“If I cleaned the church every day, mowed the yard, and kept everything neat and tidy, would that get me into Heaven?”

Again, the answer was, ‘NO!’ By now I was starting to smile. Hey, this was fun!

“Well, then, if I were kind to animals and gave candy to all the children, and loved my husband, would that get me into Heaven?” I asked them again.

Again, they all answered, “NO!”

I was just bursting with pride for them.
“Well,'”I continued, “then how can I get into Heaven?”

A five-year-old boy shouted out, “YOU GOTTA BE DEAD!”


On average, children laugh 400 times a day, while adults laugh about 15 times.  Why the gap? Did we lose something? Have we forgotten the way we used to be? Why is it that children seem to cope with life’s oddities better than adults? Perhaps it’s because they do not fully understand.

But I think it’s simpler than that—they laugh. As we grow older, we get far too serious. Watch children play. They don’t need expensive toys to entertain them. Everything is fun. They are spontaneous.

 Only when we become adults do we start to get boring. Do we need to cultivate a different attitude? Humor is in the way we see things, the way we think. It’s an attitude, not an event. Perhaps the key lies in becoming more childlike.



Years ago I saw through my kitchen window a grown man playing with his children in a sand pile at a small neighborhood park. He was right down there on his hands and knees in the sand, building an imaginary town with streets, cars, trucks, trees, houses, stores, and schools.

I could see the father pushing a wooden block bulldozer through the sand, pretending to build a road. He even made the sound effects of the bulldozer engine. I remember thinking, “Now there is an example of a great dad who knows how to play with his children.”

He was in plain view to every passing car. Was he embarrassed or ruffled? Not at all.

He seemed oblivious to the people passing by. Does this mean we should play in the sand pile with our children? Absolutely. Laugh more, play more, swing out of familiar places, be more the way you were when you were a child.

(“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E. E. Cummings)

Everyone Should Create Opportunities to Laugh…here are some ways to do this……

  • Watch a funny movie or TV show.
  • Go to a comedy club.
  • Read the funny pages.
  • Seek out funny people.
  • Share a good joke or a funny story.
  • Check out your bookstore’s humor section.
  • Host game night with friends.
  • Play with a pet.
  • Go to a “laughter yoga” class.
  • Goof around with children.
  • Do something silly.
  • Make time for fun activities (e.g. bowling, miniature golfing, karaoke).

Laughter and play are closely related. Play puts everyone on an equal footing, first by the nature of play itself, and second because you can change the rules to fit the situation. Play brings families together. It is a subtle tool for interaction and talk. It builds confidence because you can modify the rules to bring about success or any outcome you desire. Our inhibitions are minimized, and our real personalities emerge. Through play we develop relationships naturally. We tend to like people we have fun with. Play allows us to use our minds and break out of familiar molds. It allows us to explore more.

The Humor Cure
A demonstration of laughter’s splendid power lies in the experience of Saranne Rothberg, a single mother from New Jersey who was diagnosed five years ago, at age 35, with advanced breast cancer. At the time, she was struggling through a contentious divorce and had a 5-year-old daughter, Lauriel, to keep safe and happy. Would she have the strength to parent?

Would she even survive? From the doctor’s office, Saranne went right to the video store and rented every comedy video on the shelves. The next morning, thanks to Bill Cosby, et al., she put aside her considerable tears and enlisted her daughter and friends as “humor buddies” to tell her funny stories every day.

So unshakably passionate was Saranne about the goodness of laughter that during the grueling course of three surgeries, 44 radiation treatments and two years of immune-weakening chemotherapy, she founded a charity, the Comedy Cures Foundation, to bring humor strategies to others. Through it all, Saranne worked on the foundation, cared for Lauriel and, of course, laughed. “I was around illness all the time,” she recalls, “but I never even got a cold.

It was as though my cancerous breast and I laughed and turned stress and disease on its head. We laughed and moved on.” Today she is cancer free. “I learned that whatever happens, you have a choice,” she says. “Choosing to laugh puts you in control.”

Though not everyone experiences such a turnaround, Saranne’s triumph over illness hardly surprises Dr. Kuhn, who runs humor-therapy groups for cancer patients and is himself a part-time stand-up comic. “Laughter is there precisely for the purpose of keeping our balance when we get knocked off,” he says. “It helps counteract things we would otherwise have no control over.”


You Must Keep Smiling

A favorite motto of  The Happiness Project is, “The most wasted day of all is a day in which we have not laughed”. Whole-hearted laughter is a re-creation, a celebration, a creative impulse that encourages us to take the moment playfully.

Laughter can transform an ordinary moment into something extraordinary; it can energize us and optimize us; it can conjure up a blessing from any burden.


Above all, the spirit of laughter beckons us to live fully, now, this moment, today. I will leave you now with five prescriptions, collectively called S.M.I.L.E., which are designed to encourage you to make today a little more enjoyable than you initially thought it was going to be.

S is for smile – donate a smile to a worthwhile cause  today! Make an effort to be more friendly today, just for the fun of it. Keep smiling – it triggers curiosity!

M is for making mayonnaise, or any other dressing that turns something dull into something delightful! In other words, don’t wait for happiness to happen, make it happen. Take an ordinary moment and make it extraordinary. Some pursue happiness – others create it!

I is for impulse, innovation and the irregular. A brand new day is an opportunity to try a brand new way. Change a perception, alter a belief, entertain a new thought, communicate differently, act adventurously. “Each day the world is born anew / For him who takes it lightly,” wrote James Russell Lowell.

L is for the greatest dose of medicine of all: love.    Let someone know that you love them today.

E is for enjoyment. When was the last time you went out to play? Indulge yourself, invest in yourself – give yourself something to smile about.
Laughter can help you feel better about yourself and the world around you. Laughter can be a natural diversion. When you laugh, no other thought comes to mind.

Laughing can also induce physical changes in the body. After laughing for only a few minutes, you may feel better for hours.
It may seem futile to laugh in the face of pain and fear, but studies show that laughter, with its saving way of shifting perspective, is a broad-spectrum analgesic, a balm for both physical and psychological wounds.



When Dan Rather interviewed comedian Bill Cosby, just one week after his son, Ennis, was killed, Cosby said: “I think it’s time for me to tell people that we have to laugh. You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humor in anything, you can survive it.”

Call it a flashlight for dark times: Laughter just seems to adjust attitude better than anything else. Inspirational speaker Steve Rizzo recalls a TV interview with an injured firefighter a few days after 9/11. The man had fallen more than 30 stories in one of the towers and had a broken leg. Everyone was crying, and the reporter asked, “How is it that you’ve come out of this alive?”

He looked at her and without missing a beat, said, “Look, lady, I’m from New York and I’m a fire-fighter; that’s all you need to know.”

“Everyone laughed and though the laughter was only a couple of seconds,” says Rizzo, “some-times that’s all you need to catch your second wind. Laughter gives you that couple of seconds. You’re sending a message to your brain, and the message is: If you can still laugh even a little amid the pain and chaos, you’re going to be OK.”

Of course, there’s a difference between laughing off a serious situation and laughing off the fear that results. The firefighter was doing the latter, states Rizzo, the author of  Becoming a Humor Being, and so should we.

“If there’s anything we learned from 9/11, it’s how precious life really is,” he says. “We have to send a message that our spirit won’t die. One important thing that unites us is our ability to laugh.

It actually takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile.  A  genuine smile does wonders for the person smiling, and the person receiving it.  A good hearty laugh is contagious and infectious, in a good way.  It has often been said that laughter is the best medicine–so go ahead and laugh.  Laughter is the way to remind ourselves that we are very much alive.

Laughter positively affects many aspects of your life, including your health, well-being and energy, leading to a healthy, quality life.  So always smile, it improves your face value too.


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Give a Gift Of Hope

We are unlikely to ever know all the details of the birth of the AIDS epidemic. But a series of recent genetic discoveries have shed new light on it, starting with the moment when a connection from chimp to human changed the course of history.

We now know where the epidemic began: a small patch of dense forest in southeastern Cameroon. We know when: within a couple of decades on either side of 1900. We have a good idea of how: A hunter caught an infected chimpanzee for food, allowing the virus to pass from the chimp’s blood into the hunter’s body, probably through a cut during butchering.


As to the why, here is where the story gets even more fascinating, and terrible. We typically think of diseases in terms of how they threaten us personally. But they have their own stories. Diseases are born. They grow. They falter, and sometimes they die. In every case these changes happen for reasons.

For decades nobody knew the reasons behind the birth of the AIDS epidemic. But it is now clear that the epidemic’s birth and crucial early growth happened during Africa’s colonial era, amid massive intrusion of new people and technology into a land where ancient ways still prevailed. European powers engaged in a feverish race for wealth and glory blazed routes up muddy rivers and into dense forests that had been traveled only sporadically by humans before.

The most disruptive of these intruders were thousands of African porters. Forced into service by European colonial powers, they cut paths through the exact area that researchers have now identified as the birthplace of the AIDS epidemic. It was here, in a single moment of transmission from chimp to human, that a strain of virus called HIV-1 group M first appeared.

It was here, by accident but with motives by no means pure, that the world built a tinderbox and tossed in a spark.

So HIV’s first journey looked something like this: A hunter killed an infected chimp in the southeastern Cameroonian forest, and a simian virus entered his body through a cut during the butchering, mutating into HIV.


This probably had happened many times before, during the centuries when the region had little contact with the outside world. But now thousands of porters — both men and women — were crossing through the area regularly, creating more opportunities for the virus to travel onward to a riverside trading station such as Moloundou.

One of the first victims — whether a hunter, a porter or an ivory collector — gave HIV to a sexual partner. There may have been a small outbreak around the trading station before the virus found its way aboard a steamship headed down the Sangha River.

For this fateful journey south, HIV could have ridden in the body of these first victims, or it could have been somebody infected later: a soldier or a laborer. Or it could have been carried by a woman: a concubine, a trader.


It’s also possible that the virus moved down the river in a series of steps, maybe from Moloundou to Ouesso, then onward to Bolobo on the Congo River itself.

There might even have been a series of infections at trading towns along the entire route downriver. Yet even within these riverside trading posts HIV would have struggled to create anything more than a short-lived, localized outbreak.

Most of this colonial world didn’t have enough potential victims for such a fragile virus to start a major epidemic. HIV is harder to transmit than many other infections. People can have sex hundreds of times without passing the virus on. To spread widely, HIV requires a population large enough to sustain an outbreak and a sexual culture in which people often have more than one partner, creating networks of interaction that propel the virus onward.

To fulfill its grim destiny, HIV needed a kind of place never before seen in Central Africa but one that now was rising in the heart of the region: a big, thriving, hectic place jammed with people and energy, where old rules were cast aside amid the tumult of new commerce.

Emergency Essentials/BePrepared

I think it’s [the AIDS fight] the most important and most pressing one – I think it’s a global emergency and I think in a way we all have to address it and engage with it because I think it’s the biggest threat to the human race that we have ever faced.


Once upon a time in Africa there was no such a thing as an orphan. In fact, there is really no word for “orphan” in African languages, to define an orphan one has to resort to circumlocutions: a child without a mother and father. Even if both mother and father died being an orphan in our sense was all but inconceivable because there was always an older brother or sister, uncle or aunt, or some other relative no matter how distant who would be willing to take in such children.


AIDS has changed all of that, now there truly are orphans, children who have no close or distant relative to take them in. Many of them depend on the only family that they know, the priests and religious of the Church who are striving to straining point to take them in and care for them. AIDS is not just a cruel disease, but a cause of possibly permanent social disruption, the likes of which, Africa has never known.

“I believe that this could very well be looked back on as the sin of our generation…I believe that our children and their children, 40 or 50 years from now, are going to ask me, what did you do while 40 million children became orphans in Africa? “

My name is Kevina Luboma. I am 14 years old.  I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters younger than me.  I come from Uganda. I am studying in Primary…….I have come here to say something about AIDS and its problems.

AIDS means acquired immune-deficiency syndrome. It’s a terrible disease. It killed both my mother and father in 1992. It killed all brothers and sisters of my father. It has killed many men and women in Uganda.

Some houses have been closed. But our house was not closed because my father and mother left me with four brothers and two sisters. I look after them. I also look after my grandfather who lives near us, because his wife died and nobody was there to look after him. He is 84 years old. He lost his wife in 1992. The grandfather does not see. He has eye problems. It is me who looks after the family.

From school, I go to bring water from the well. I take a jerrican on my head. I tell my brothers and sisters to go in the bush and collect firewood. Sometimes, when we don’t have fire, we go and get it from our neighbours. We cook potatoes, matooke, pumpkins and casava. But my brothers do not want cassava; they want only matooke. Our banana plantation is now a forest. We dig in our plantation on holidays and on Saturday. Our food is not enough. Some days we don’t get food. We eat cassava with boiled water as sauce. We don’t have money to buy sugar or tea leaves.

In the evening I make up beds for my young sisters and brothers. Every week we cut grass to use as our mattresses. We all sleep together and cover ourselves with blankets. Sometimes we sleep in the corner of the house because our house is leaking. Our blankets get wet and we put them near the fire or in the sun to dry.

There is the problem of disease. We get sick and go to the dispensary. At the dispensary they want money but we don’t have the money. They give only tablets. We foot from home to the dispensary. You cannot stop a car because they also want money. Old women help us and give us leaves and mululuza to chew. This helps to get rid of fever.

Because I am a girl people think I am weak. So they come home and steal our cassava and fire wood. Because I am a girl even when I see them I can do nothing. Some people in the village are not friends. They shout at us, they don’t give us advice; we don’t have any one to call father or mother; we feel sad when we see other children laughing with their father and mother. In short, this is how I find life.

But other orphans have the same life. They don’t have blankets; they don’t eat meat; they don’t have sugar; they sleep in huts.. Some go to eat at the neighbors or they get one meal a day. At school, life is good. The teacher calls us orphans, but I don’t want that name. Even other children don’t want that name. We think we are animals.

My friends, I am concluding by saying that the life of an orphan in Uganda is bad. Some people want us to work as their house girls and house boys. Now we want good food, blankets, education and many other things. We also want to live in good houses. So orphans need help. We need to grow and to be proud and happy people.

Let me stop here. Thank you very much. 


“AIDS destroys families, decimates communities and, particularly in the poorest areas of the world, threatens to destabilize the social, cultural, and economic fabric of entire nations…”


Orphanages were once unknown in Africa and missionaries used to build schools for children, they are now building or converting schools into orphanages. Visit one of these orphanages and see how these tiny children cling to you, it breaks your heart.

“Children have their own world. For us it is
small, for them it is everything.”

Africa is the continent that has been affected the most by HIV/AIDS over the past 30 years. Surpassing malaria, AIDS is the number one killer in sub-Saharan Africa, taking the lives of over one and a half million people every year. The causes are ample and the cure remains a hope that has yet to be found.  You can help with this…..

You can make a difference in the lives of the children of Africa.   Poverty is common in East Africa. Many children become orphans due to AIDS or other diseases. There is an AIDS epidemic engulfing much of Africa. In some countries of Africa it is estimated 40% of the working-age population has contracted HIV, with younger and more successful workers being most likely to be affected. The worst affected countries include Swaziland, Botswana, Zimbabwe and Lesotho.

People talk of AIDS in Africa, but Africa is a diverse continent, and different regions have been attempting to tackle AIDS in different ways, some with positive effect, while others seemingly making little progress.

An epidemic occurs when a disease or virus spreads so much that a large number of the population is infected.  The AIDS virus can be considered an epidemic.  In fact, it can even be considered a pandemic.  

Although Africa has the highest population of people with AIDS, this disease can be found in even the farthest reaches of the human population of Earth.  All in all, there are over 33 million people in the world who are infected with the virus, and without proper education and medication, that number will continue to grow.  Over two million people have died from complications of the illness.  As you can see, this is a very terrible and deadly epidemic.  It claims human lives every day, including children.

“Young people were once considered relatively safe from HIV/AIDS. “Today, their lives and futures are at risk throughout the world because of this disease. I believe it is young people throughout the world who offer us the greatest hope for defeating this deadly pandemic.”


Let me tell you about a woman named Veronica and her newborn daughter. Veronica’s baby looks calm and alert, loose curls framing her face. Her long fingers curl under a chin tucked into a soft, fringed blanket.

Beyond the blanket, the baby’s world looks much less secure. Her mother’s dejected hands barely keep her from sliding off her blue cotton lap. Her mother’s face is lowered, eyes avoiding the camera, and avoiding her daughter. Her mother’s forehead is concentrated in a confused frown.


Clearly unhappy about having her photo taken, Veronica seems resigned to this intrusion only because she doesn’t know how to make it go away.

According to the newspaper story, the baby was conceived when Veronica was raped, and infected with HIV, in an AIDS cleansing ritual in western Kenya. Veronica’s baby, yet unnamed, will be affected by AIDS her entire life.

The reasons for AIDS being as prevalent as it is in Africa are many. However, the underlying concern is simply that many of the population do not have access to receive proper care. A weakened economic state can not provide for the proper measures of health care to all of those afflicted with HIV/AIDS. Furthermore, the means to provide for proper methods of restricted the spread of the virus are also quite apparent; the numbers and previous examples will continue to show that spread of AIDS in Africa is bound to continue unless the appropriate measures are taken to educate and treat the people of Africa. The impact of the AIDS epidemic in Africa can not simply be measured by death tolls; the impacts have a much broader effect on the entire population.

“Can we watch one-quarter of some countries’ people die? Can 27 million orphans be left to fend for themselves? We may not be able to solve the entire problem today, but let us not be discouraged from taking the steps necessary to begin the journey. “



One family can make a difference in an African life, an African family, an African village.
One thousand families can help a country.
One hundred thousand families can help save a continent.

Magic Cabin


How you can help AIDS affected children and families

Now you know more about the  problems of AIDS in Africa and wondered whether you can really make a difference. We think that you can.

One way to help AIDS affected families is to make a small, regular commitment to a charity that has a long history working in Africa. 


Domestic commitment and international support are critical to saving Africa’s next generation.

Prevention programs and necessities for children are very costly and every little bit helps make a difference in the life of a child.

Eventually this problem can be reversed through education and improvement of lives of current orphans in Africa, and your donation, regardless of size can help.

  By giving a charity donation or becoming a sponsor for a boy or girl in need, you will help give a disadvantaged child care, education and a future.

I don’t claim to have all the solutions, but I do know that if girls and boys received quality education and knew that there would be opportunities for decent jobs in their adult futures; and if women felt empowered to stand up to men; and if there were more ways for people to access nutritious food and be economically self-sufficient, we would be a lot further in tackling the AIDS pandemic in a holistic and sustainable way.

But no singular approach is sufficient for the magnitude of this disease. Without simultaneously working to uplift the community with empowering opportunities such as education, income-generation, and sustainable agriculture, all the billions of dollars from government and private donor funds will not be as effective as they need to be.

AIDS in Africa may seem like a never ending world problem, but if something like basic awareness can reduce the spread by 50% it seems that the country and others in Africa are finally taking charge. But there is still much to be done.  One important thing the country needs is to produce a new generation of Africans that are healthy, provided for and well-educated.


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Do Your Children Have To Much?

How much stuff does a child really need? When did kids start accumulating so much?

Do we as parents buy them too much? Do the kids expect too much? Is there too much pressure on parents these days to “keep up with the Joneses ” when it comes to their kids versus  what other kids have? One of the greatest things about children is that they have the ability to entertain themselves for long periods of time with somethings as simple as a cardboard box, a container, or a set of measuring spoons.  It makes you wonder why we feel the need to buy them so many toys that they won’t even have time to play with them all before they grow out of them.

Why Children Are Spoiled:

  • Wealth: America has become a wealthy country, and now, with more disposable income than ever before, spoiled-child parents can hire nannies, cleaners and gardeners. “Necessity is the mother of invention, and there is less of a necessity for kids to contribute to families,” he says.
  • Overindulgence: Parents want to give their kids all the things they didn’t have when they grew up.  “They mistakenly believe that those things they lacked were things like $100 pairs of sneakers.”
  • Workaholic society: Many workaholic parents feel guilty and end up giving their children gifts instead of giving them their time.
  • Bad marriages: Not all parents get enough love from their spouse, so the child becomes their principal source of affection.  “They spoil the child in order to buy their love—love upon which they have become unnaturally dependent.”
  • Exhaustion: When parents work hard and stay up way too late, they lack the energy to really discipline their kids and find it easier to give in to their children’s wants, he says.
  • Friendship over parenting: Some parents want to be best friends with their children. They create a false sense of equality with their kids when what they really need is a parent.  “Equality means that they have no right to boss their children around.



Do we buy our children  things thinking it might make them happier as our lifestyles now are so much busier than 30 odd years ago. “How can we take back our kids, restoring respect, excellence, civility, and decent values, not to mention self-esteem?  Of course, you may be wondering how to resist those pretty eyes and that sweet smile when your little one begs for the expensive dress or the pricey toy that other kids have. It really boils down to whether or not your budget can support it, and whether you want to take this opportunity to teach a value lesson. Moments like these are perfect opportunities to teach your children about values, decision making, money management, and saving.

Your primary job as a parent is to prepare your child for how the world really works. In the real world, you don’t always get what you want. You will be better able to deal with that as an adult if you’ve experienced it as a child.

charles-schulz-peanuts-celebrate-the-little-thingsDon’t let your guilt get in the way of your parenting. “Your job as a parent is not to make yourself feel good by giving the child everything that makes you feel good when you give it,” Dr. Phil tells one mom. Your job as a parent is to prepare your child to succeed in school and when they get out into the world. “Kids have to be socialized in a way that they understand you work hard for what you get.” You don’t want to teach your child that they will get everything through manipulation, pouting, crying, door slamming and guilt induction.

Make sure your children aren’t defining their happiness and their status in the world as a function of what they wear or drive. Sit down with them and have a one-on-one conversation about what really defines their worth ” their intelligence, their creativity, their caring, their giving, their work ethic, etc.”  If you spent equal time sitting down and talking to them about what really mattered as you do shopping, you might be able counterbalance the countless images they see telling them otherwise.

Your child does not have to love you every minute of every day. He’ll get over the disappointment of having been told “no.” But he won’t get over the effects of being spoiled.


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Our kids need discipline, direction, love and the gift of our time. Nothing more, nothing less. The battle has not been lost; their lives can be turned around. But the excessive gifts and toys must end, the unreasonable concern for their every thought and feeling must end, and the acceptance of their mediocrity must end.

We must make crystal clear what our standards are, and clearly communicate and vigorously enforce consequences when they are breached. It is time to remind our children that they are, alas, just children; and although they are exceedingly important, the earth still resolves around the sun.”

“By spoiling our children, they become brats and we do them the disservice of removing the natural cuteness that makes them adorable and lovable to the world. But by giving our children discipline and purposefulness, we protect their innocence and bring out their natural light, which makes for a brighter, more wholesome world.”

Children are incredibly wise and tend to see the world more simply than we do. Perhaps it is time we start taking their advice. Maybe we would all feel a little less stressed and be satisfied with the fact that doing little things really is… good enough.

Parenting is a challenging yet rewarding journey. Sometimes it requires us to take the road less traveled so we can bring out the best in our kids. Don’t be afraid to spoil your kids with love, but do not lose yourself in the process. If you can find the right balance, you can equip your kids with life skills that can last a lifetime.

Giving your child everything he/she wants is really about you as the parent and less about your child. Beginning when your child is young, hold back and allow your child to work for some of what he/she wants. He/She will thank you later.




A kid’s mind is innocent. What he sees, he believes.  Next time you are buying something for your child, because you couldn’t take him to the movies, or got caught up in work and could not host a party for his birthday, stop yourself. At the same time, it is best to remember that nothing in this world is more important than you, to your child, and all he wants is attention from you! No amount of toys or other things can ever make up for the time that you don’t spend with him every day, and no parent can be so busy that he can’t spend at least an hour with his child every day, or even every other day. In a child’s world, Love is spelled T-I-M-E. Give that to your child, and you will notice the changes pretty soon!

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