“What Makes a Good Parent?”

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Even though we need a license to do many things in life—everything from driving and operating a forklift to practicing medicine and fishing—there is no license required when it comes to parenting.

photo674-199x3001To be a parent is a gift………………It is also challenging.

Fundamentally, good parenting is common sense. The basic principle of good parenting which cannot be ignored is teaching. Whenever you want your children to grow successfully, then sit and think of your past. What aspect of your life do you want to reflect in your children’s  life as a  parent? Raising children is not an easy task as parents Raising your children will give them a good structure in attitudes and personalities.   Good parenting is a blessing which involves nurturing a child in warmth of motherhood & love of fatherhood.  Good parenting is not an  in-born quality it comes over period of time.

The other side of good parenting apart from love & care is responsiveness & understanding. For good parenting understanding is the key element. Understanding your  children ’s needs, desires, expectation are an important part of parenting.

Children are like wet clay. They can mold in any shape, any form depends on their parents in which form they want to mold them.

Part of being a Good Parent is spending family time with your kids. By just spending time now will help you to build memories with your kids for a lifetime. This time would never come back once gone. It does not take too long for the kids to grow up and then you would regret not spending quality time with them when they were small.  Spending time with your family goes hand in hand with parenting

Knowledge on how to raise kids these days is something every parent needs to come equipped with. You can either take advice from those who have kids, or from your own parents. The problem is, the same ways won’t apply to all kids, being either too extreme, too liberal or age-old methods. You have to understand that kids these days are more free-spirited and independent, attaining personalities at a very young age.

No one ever said that it was easy to be a parent. Parents have several duties and responsibilities. They have to provide the countless needs (and wants) of their children. But the most important duty that they have is to mould their children  into the best people  they could ever be.  Parents should teach their child the value of discipline, self worth, and love in all aspects.

The Process of Being A New Parent……………………….Being a Parent is a life long experience. At the time of hero-families-300x130conception, your gratifying job as a parent finally begins.

Parenting is a Never-Ending Job………………………….Remember, parenting is never as easy as you would thing it is going to be. Children now, regardless of their age, need help and proper guidance from you, their parents. To be a parent, this requires you to walk a fine thin line. Always, think before you decide to become a parent.

Teach Your Kids Self- Reliance.………………………………To be happy is what most parents want for their child. If you suddenly notice that you constantly give in to your child’s whims, take a pause and ask yourself what made you do such a thing. When your children become adults, they too will understand that everyone is responsible for the way they built their lives.  Other children with little or no opportunity to be allowed to explore self-reliance or who were never taught to learn that with possession always comes responsibility and were never allowed to fulfill their very own needs, sadly tend to acquire a sense of entitlement which obscures their sense of contribution.

 

 

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Dr. Phil has  listed the 5 Core Steps to Being a Good Parent..Wondering if there is anything else you can do? These  can help bring you and your child closer together:
1. Plug In
Make a conscious decision to plug into your kid’s world. You can’t make assumptions about the critical choices that children have to make today because the world they are living in is different from the one you grew up in.

2. Spread the Word

When you talk to your children you’ve got to spread out your logic so that they can see why you’re saying what you’re family-portrait-01-300x200saying. Research shows us that the amount of trouble kids get into is inversely proportional to the number of words spoken in the home. What that means is, the less you talk at home, the more trouble they get in outside the home.
3. Talk About Things That Don’t Matter
How do you ever expect to talk to them about things that do matter if you haven’t practiced by talking about things that don’t?4. Remember, You’re the Parent
Children have lots of friends who tell them what they want to hear. They don’t need you to be another friend. They need you to be an authority figure who lets them know where the boundaries of acceptable behavior are. Trying to be his or her friend will only undermine your authority as a parent and come back to bite you.

5. Allow Them A Sense of Mastery

You have to put your kids in a world where they feel a sense of mastery over their own environment. It’s important that they don’t feel they’re subject to arbitrary guidance or haphazard decisions.

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Young kids are like sponges, they notice everything. As parents we are our children’s first role model. Pay attention to what you say or do around them and think about what kind of example you are making.Show love to your children: Okay, it is true that you love your kids but how do you express your love to your children? Always tell them that you love them everyday. Give them a kiss frequently. Always hug your children. Let your children know how special they are unto you. Ensure you let them be aware of what they mean to you especially.Be attentive to your children as this helps you a lot in good parenting and it helps you to understand your children better.  Do not be afraid to be a parent. Do your best, be their friend, but never let them forget you are their parent, not a collaborator.And do not forget that parenting does not stop when a child grows up. Being a good parent remains a life-long role. But remember that once they become adults, the decisions they make in life are ultimately theirs with their consequences.

 

The Mothering Commandments

by The Momma Knows

Children are flighty, argumentative, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do what is best for him, your child will accuse you of ruining his life.
Do what is best for him anyway.

beautiful-parent-child-photographies11If your kids grow up to be successful, they may earn some real friends and a few enemies.
Encourage them to succeed anyway.

The laundry you do today will be dirty tomorrow.
Do the laundry anyway.

The biggest kids on campus with the brightest ideas can be shot down by the smallest kids with the smallest ideas.
Encourage them to think big anyway.

Teens may favor the average, less popular kids but seek to be the social elite.
Teach them to stand up for the less popular kids anyway.

Being transparent with your children about your faults makes you vulnerable.
Be transparent with them anyway.

The toys you spend hours putting together on Christmas Eve may be destroyed by the next night.
Put the toys together anyway.

A teen who really needs help but doesn’t like to ask for it and may attack you if you help her.
Help her anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you may get knocked down.
Give your family the best you have and they will love you.

 

 

In his book The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, Laurence Steinberg, PhD, provides tips and guidelines based on some 75 years of social science research. Follow them and you can avert all sorts of child behavior problems, he says. Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve.

Here are Dr. Steinberg’s 10 principles of good parenting:

1. What you do matters. Whether it’s your own health behaviors or the way you treat other people, your children are learning from what you do. “This is one of the most important principles,” Steinberg explains. “What you do makes a difference…Don’t just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?”

img152. You cannot be too loving.It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love,” Steinberg writes. “What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love — things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions.”

3. Be involved in your child’s life.Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”

Being involved does not mean doing a child’s homework — or correcting it. “Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not,” Steinberg says. “If you do the homework, you’re not letting the teacher know what the child is learning.”

4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child. Keep pace with your child’s development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child’s behavior.

“The same drive for independence that is making your 3-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained,” writes Steinberg. “The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”

5. Establish and set rules.If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren’t around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.

“But you can’t micromanage your child,” Steinberg notes. “Once they’re in middle school, you need to let the child do their own homework, make their own choices and not intervene.”

6. Foster your child’s independence. “Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need Quest Seekersboth.”

It’s normal for children to push for autonomy, says Steinberg. “Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”

7. Be consistent. “If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”

8. Avoid harsh discipline. Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances, Steinberg says. “Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children,” he writes. “They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.””There are many other ways to discipline a child — including ‘time out’ — which work better and do not involve aggression.”

9. Explain your rules and decisions. “Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to,” he writes. “Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn’t have the priorities, judgment, or experience that you have.”

10.MPj03961760000[1] Treat your child with respect. “The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully,” Steinberg writes. “You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”

For example, if your child is a picky eater: “I personally don’t think parents should make a big deal about eating,” Steinberg says. “Children develop food preferences. They often go through them in stages. You don’t want to turn mealtimes into unpleasant occasions. Just don’t make the mistake of substituting unhealthy foods. If you don’t keep junk food in the house, they won’t eat it.”

The Heart of the Matter ( Great Parenting….She is already teaching him about life)
We were residing in Mexico at the time, and life seemed good! I was a proud mom of a four-year-old boy, Noah, and four-months pregnant with a second child. Then disaster struck, and I lost the baby. Due to medical complications, I had to return to Canada in order to receive the proper medical treatment. My four-year-old came with me, but my partner was unable to join us. After two weeks of medical care, which Noah and I somehow managed together, we found ourselves homeless, scared and alone.

After deciding to remain in Canada, we finally settled into a place. One rainy day shortly after, Noah and I sat cuddling on our couch. We began to talk about the baby I had lost. I told him I was heartbroken, but emphasized that sometimes God does not give you what you want, but what you need to heal.

Noah then rose up off the couch, announcing he would be right back. I paid no heed and looked out the window at the thumbnail.aspxrain. When Noah returned, he had his toddler-sized tools in hand, and carefully laid them out one-by-one on the couch beside me.

 

He then picked up his small screwdriver, asked me where my heart was and began unscrewing small invisible screws. Surprised, I looked up and asked Noah what he was doing.

 

“Mom, I’m fixing your broken heart,” he said simply. Seems God gave me just what I needed to heal—Noah.

In conclusion, raising children is shouldered mostly by parent and with good parenting ideas and classes, you as a parent will succeed.By filling our home with gratitude for all we do have and with positive words and actions, we can begin to experience more pleasant interactions and actively create the family life of our dreams.

 

 

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