Do You Say I love You?

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I love you seems to be a “Hallmark” term. A favorite saying in some cards is- “I know I don’t always say it but I love you or, “even though I don’t say it often enough, I love you.”

I’d like to challenge that statement by asking, “why don’t you say it, and often?” If you ask the definition of a family, some may say that it is a group of people comprising of mother, father and children who live together in a house.

 

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Why is it important to say “I love you”? There are many reasons that we could discuss all of them valid. We could mention what happens to children that never hear those words, relate what kind adults they may become, or how those words can bring an invisible healing power to people in hospitals; how they bring courage and strength to those facing seemingly insurmountable odds, how a single “I love you” can propel a man from trying hard to doing the impossible.

These words are timeless, boundless, inspiring and so important. Division between families and countries can be bridged by a couple who are in love I know people who are uncomfortable saying “I love you”.

Some because they were not raised hearing it, some because they have trouble expressing their innermost feelings, and still others because they feel the power of the words is lessened if it is ‘overused’. I beg to differ. I love you.

I love you today, tomorrow and forever. I loved you yesterday and I loved you twenty minutes ago and I love you right here and right now. There is no way to express my love for you more simply than to say it, and because I love you so deeply and with such commitment I will tell you as many times a day as I feel it. never-pass-a-chance-to-300x235     Saying “I love you” is emotional. It is sweet and pure and simple, and it is the best, most inexpensive  gift you can give someone. Do not make the excuse that the people you love should already know it by your life and actions, make sure they know it! Saying “I love you” relieves stress.

It is a reminder that you are safe and that you are also loved. It is a way to offer a person peace, security, joy and a little bit of sunshine for the day. It does not need to be an eye-to-eye intense moment wrought with physical passion, it is an acknowledgment that you are present in their life and that you care.

There is a wonderful song by Garth Brooks , “If Tomorrow Never Comes” that expresses one of the greatest and best reasons as to why it is important to say “I Love You.”  Because if you do not say it when you have the chance, you may have missed out on it forever.

 


Do you know why it is very important to say I love you to those people you love?  Too many times, we just take it for granted that those we love know we love them so we feel as if we do not need to say it.

 

 

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When I Love You is said to children, it helps mold a lifetime of  security and confidence for when they confront love.   Telling your children you love them spares them the wonder and insecurity of feeling unloved.  Although everyone feels unloved now and then.

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  Which brings us back to those three very special words, I love you….and why it is very important to say as often as felt. When you tell a parent you love them, they feel better about themselves.

  All the punishments and verbal threats it took raising you, your brothers and sisters was not in vain.  Loved parents feel a sense of accomplishment.

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“I love you” Can any words possible sound sweeter or offer greater comfort. Is any statement more natural or necessary between a parent and child? In many families, these words come easily.

But if you grew up never having them saying “I love you” may feel somewhat unnatural to you. People have trouble saying “I love you” for many reasons–perhaps they were raised in homes with emotionally distant parents, they’re unhappy or they’ve been hurt before and are afraid the feeling will not be reciprocated again.

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Even so, it’s important to say it because the person you’re saying it to–your spouse or child–needs to hear it. “You need to be the kind of person who not only feels love, but gives love.” The more you say it, the more you feel it.

However uncomfortable, force yourself to say it, over and over, until the habit becomes second nature.

 There is truly no underestimating the importance of saying, “I love you.” 

Those three little words are,  the most important sentence in the world, “I love you, accept you, and how can I help you.” The term love implies both acceptance and the willingness to place someone’s needs ahead of our own.

 

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The term love implies more than a simple selfish passing moment, but a deep understanding of who someone is, and the knowledge that they are good enough without their perfections we are so often seeking.

Without love and acceptance, what really do we have from each other?

I found this story that I want to share…

I hired a plumber to help me restore an old Farmhouse and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job, a flat tire made him lose an hour of work and his electric drill quit, and his ancient one-ton truck refused to start. 

As I drove him home, he sat in stony silence. On arriving he invited me in to meet his family.  As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands.  Upon opening the door he had undergone an amazing transformation.

 

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His tanned face was wreathed  in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss. Afterward he walked me to the car, we passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me.  I asked him about what I had seen him do at the little tree.

“Oh, that’s my trouble tree,” he replied.”  I know I can’t help having troubles on the job but one thing’s for sure, those troubles don’t belong in the house with my wife and children.  So I just hang them upon the tree every night when I come home, and ask God to take care of them. 

Then in the morning I pick them up again. “Funny thing is” he smiled “when I come out in the morning to pick them up there aren’t nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.” This man learned how important his family is and wants to show his love always no matter what kind of day he had. This man’s house was filled with “I love you’s everywhere.”

Love is a hug,  a kiss, a whisper to cheer the heart of the other.

Our children are the greatest gifts that life bestows upon us. The love a parent has for a child is an overwhelming and limitless emotion. It is unconditional, everlasting, and pure.

It is for this reason that it is far beyond merely important that we speak our love to our children often and fully. They deserve to be completely aware of our feelings for them, and it is essential for both ourselves and our children that we do not hold back in the expression of the deep affection we hold in our hearts for them.

 

 

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I ran into a stranger as he passed by “Oh excuse me please” was my reply. He said “Please excuse me to; I wasn’t watching for you.”

We were very polite, this stranger and I. We went on our way and said good-bye. But at home a different story is told. How we treat our loved ones young and old. Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very still.


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When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way.” I said with a frown. He walked away, his little heart broken I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken. While I lay awake in bed, God’s still small voice came to me and said, While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor, You’ll find some flowers there by the door. These are the flowers he picked for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue. “He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.”

By this time, I felt very small. And now my tears began to fall. I quietly went and knelt by his bed; “Wake up, little one,wake up,” I said. “Are those flowers you picked today for me?” He smiled, “I found ’em out by the tree.” I picked ’em because they’re pretty like you.

I knew you’d like ’em especially the blue.” I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.” He said, “Oh, Mom, that’s okay. I love you anyway.”

I said, “Son, I love you too, and I do like flowers, especially the blue.”

Loving someone, and telling them often, is a gift. And not just to the recipient of your love, but to yourself as well. When you truly love someone and find the courage to express it well and express it often, you are giving more of a gift to yourself than anyone.

Love is something that needs nourishment through actions and words. It is a living thing. Just as a plant will not survive without water and sunshine, love will wither if we don’t “feed” it. Saying “I love you” and showing affection, especially when it is unexpected, feeds our souls.

Other things may change us but we start and end with Family.

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Some Ways Family Members Can Say I Love You. Speak kindly to your child.

Let your “no” mean no.

Let your “yes” mean yes.

Ask “Do you want to talk?”

Listen, Listen, Listen.

Make Free Time.

Laugh out loud.

Say “I am Proud of You”.

Smile Be home when they are home.

Add hugs to your list.

Did you know you need 12 hugs a day to keep the doctor away?

Make “I love you” the last thing you say every night.

Keep your promises.

Say “I Love You”.

Help spread the love in families and perhaps if more people said those words it would strengthen families.

 

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Often, we take each other for granted, believing that the other person knows we love them. After all, if we didn’t, we would be elsewhere, doing something for somebody else.

A busy mother may neglect to tell her adolescent or adult children how much she loves them. They know enough about each other to accept this as a given, don’t they? A son may not remember to tell his elderly parents how much he loves them.

We think our actions speak louder than words, so they MUST be aware of our love. Put yourself in the place of someone waiting and hoping to hear those words more often, and you will know just why it is important to say “I love you.”

Think of the joy and pleasure it gives you to be told you are loved, no matter who, what or where you are in life.  “I love you” tells someone that you care and means to them that you see their value.

Although these three words can be the most important you may say in your life, use them wisely.

 

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Tell someone you love them when you do. Don’t tell someone, just because, tell them because you mean it. Telling another you love them without the true feeling behind it can be very hurtful, your actions potentially will not match your words.

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